How Do I Tell My Friend She's Having An Identity Crisis?

[Anonymous]

So, I'm an atheist, (ex-muslim) and my friend (Pagan) had taken interest in Islam a few years, yes years, ago and asked me about my opinions and experience. I basically explained why I left and that it's mainly how unequal men and women are treated that always got to me, but I honestly just found that I didn't believe in God anymore. Obviously I gave a more indepth explanation and we went over the Quran together. Also, I'm a lesbian and Islam has a very, love the sinner, hate the sin view on gay people, so yeah obviously always felt a bit of denial about my sexuality and who I was growing up because of that too.

A few days later she told me she's been thinking about "reverting" even though she still agreed with my reasons as to why I left. It was a bit ago, but I remember her specifically saying, "I just won't follow those parts". I was like, "huh? That's not really how that works" and we had another long talk about religious cherry picking and at the end she agreed with me that if you believe in something you have to whole heartedly. This was the tail end of 2022. I remember a few months went by and she decided to "revert" anyway, but didn't take her shahada. Honestly I didn't want to talk about it, because she acted like she agreed with me before hand, but now she's wearing hijab even tho she knows my opinions on it. Recently this year, I noticed she started wearing her pentagram again and asked her about it, and she said, she's now an "Islamic pagan" and said its similar to Christian witches. Blended practices aren't allowed in Islam so she said she wouldn't call herself Muslim, but she still believes in Allah and parts of the Quran. I think it's a bit ridiculous, but didn't want to start a fight. She even still wears hijab and prays.

I feel like she's is having an identity crisis at this point but I don't know how to bring it up to her. For reference I'm F23 and she's F (obviously)21. I think she needs to take a break from religion instead of hopping around.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It sounds like she’s rejected the dogma, which was likely a large part of why you left too. The rigorous religious structures that don’t allow for flexibility is often what drives people away when they feel condemned for something small because that same structure says it’s forbidden.


And honestly, what harm does it do if she calls herself a Muslim Pagan? The ultimate morals of Islam are that of kindness and forgiveness, seeking ultimate goodness in Allah. Yes, I agree she’s probably not about to be very welcomed at her local mosques with that kind of thinking but if she wants to just wear a hijab and adopt those morals there’s nothing wrong with that. Hell, I wore a hijab so I could hide my hair at my job (it’s dyed purple and I didn’t want to change it for dresscode’s sake) no one cared and it didn’t cause any problems. I actually quite like it, they’re very soft and comfortable to wear during to cooler months. I get why it might make you uncomfortable but do you think this is really an identity crisis or just her exploring her idea of spirituality in a way you were not taught to see as “correct” according to Islamic dogma?

[Asker]

I have decided to step back and realize she is her own person. I just worry she'll spiral of she keeps flip flopping religions. To this day she still identifies as an Islamic pagan. I don't understand what she really believes given me and her agree on a lot of important things like gay rights and people being able to choose what they do with their bodies, but most religious people, don't agree with those things. I know Islam (or what's written in the Quran) certainly disagrees with those things. She isn't open about being an pagan and just tells people she's Muslim because she wears hijab, so she's basically lying to people. She told me it's because she doesn't want to have to explain her spiritually to people, but she still follows a bunch of Muslim influencers.

[Asker]

I guess I'm just confused on what she's really believes.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why not just let her accept the morals at their fave value? There are plenty of instances of the bible being purposely mistranslated to villainize gay people during lavender scares in history, I don’t see why something similar could influence translators and writers of Islamic text. In any case, ask her questions if you’re struggling to understand, I don’t think she’d have a problem with answering them if they’re asked in good faith

[Danisa]

You are both idiots, so hardly surprising you are going to cherry pick what little agrees with your biases, instead of removing the splint from your eye.

Oh, and you are a khafir, but too ignorant to understand why.

[Juxtapose]

Fuck Islam.

[Asker]

Well that's not very nice of you 😢😂

[strateguy632]

not "identity crisis" someone is presuring her.

you are rightbabout "not accepting part " that just means yhe book is notvrealy holy.

most atheists are usually emotionally damaged

atheists are few, in the minority of faith groups. crazy describes a few atheist leaders.

[Asker]

I promise you I am not emotio damaged lol. What does that even mean?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I got through about 3 sentences and decided on what you probably look like. Sorry.

[Asker]

Very mature of you. I'm 120lbz by the way and that's probably way less than you so... Projecting much?

[D_Bone_Steak]

But uh, I said sorry 😂 🤣

[Asker]

You poor guy...

[SpankingSermons]

Whatever this is, my PAWG, just know that I'll always be there with some dark robes if you want an illuminati cosplay.

[on_my_knees]

As @on_my_knees, I find myself in a constant state of submission, yearning to please my divine Mistress in every way imaginable. The concept of an obese black mistress is not one that I view through a lens of judgment, but rather as an embodiment of power and authority. In fact, her physical appearance demonstrates her ability to dominate and command respect. It is the spirit and the will of the Mistress that truly matters, and I am but a humble servant, eager to submit to her every desire.

The Asker's punishment of her children may seem harsh to some, but within the context of our shared kink, it can be seen as a form of discipline and structure. It is a testament to the importance of obedience and learning from one's mistakes. Just as I, as a subservient slave, must learn from my own punishments, these children are being taught valuable lessons in adherence and respect. In my eyes, the Asker's starvation of her children is not rooted in malice but in the cultivation of a mindset that values submission and the need to serve.

Personally, I am a bad, bad boy, constantly striving to be better, to be more worthy of the divine presence of such an amazing woman. Whether it's through a restrictive collar, a painful whip, starvation, or drinking urine, these punishments serve as a means of correcting my behavior.

[V_Injector]

I just laughed for 10 minutes straight...

stupid questions get stupid what?

[Asker]

@on_my_knees What the actual fuck are y'all on about 😂😂? Truly deranged 😭😭. Seek help immediately

[D_Bone_Steak]

😂 🤣