Do you believe a father is needed more in his daughters life than her mom? I believe so?

[Tinana]

I have suffered from a lot of mental health problems low self esteem anxiety ocd obsessive thoughts anxious attachment and during my 6 month healing journey I’ve grown so much but what put a lid on my Demons was I realized no one could love me like my dad does it almost felt like growing up he said he loved me but he was never around and so I never got those father and daughter relationship until much later when the damage had been done and I never realized that that was my problem I’ve been sooooo erratic because I was abused and thinking abuse was normal on and on until I decided to take a step back and revaluate my life. 🤣 my daddy issues have gone I used to think older men were for me but now it looks scary because I’m small and 22 my senses are back I lacked boundaries and couldn’t say no but now I’ll say no without a care and I won’t even stay in a place affecting my boundaries. I never spoke to him of what happened to me I don’t blame him or hate him he’s an amazing dad but growing up he was working so hard to raise a lot of my cousins because he wanted to remove poverty from his family and I suffered the consequences of having different people living in my house so often I was sexually abused and the more I was beaten as a kid I learned to cut myself and just stay quiet and that transcended to my adult life. I’m grateful I decided to take a step back to face my demons and I’m glad my daddy issues are over 🤭 because I am my father’s daughter at least this time I know

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It depends on who you ask. Parenting in general is a struggle, not everyone can handle it or is meant for it despite taking on that mantle. Obviously having an absent parent will create problems in the child, most notably “daddy issues” from an absent father can result in an inability to validate oneself, they’re more prone to depression, self-esteem issues, a heightened need for codependency, anger issues, etc. and then you have “mommy issues” from an absent mother can have similar results but more often turn into a fear of abandonment which can lead to the need to reject and push others away, heightening aggression, greater emotional outbursts, and an inability to control their actions and impulses.
Having both influences in one’s life can help in managing many of these issues without necessarily being related to one another. Finding someone to act as a male or female mentor usually helps in that role of mom/dad as the child develops psychologically. Going without can cause the issues previously stated. It doesn’t necessarily need to be their blood father, it can be an uncle, a grandfather, a teacher, a neighbor, that much doesn’t matter as much as just having that presence.

[Sarah2007]

I only have a mom and I'm living my best life, I definitely don't see a need of a father ( talking about my own personal experience ).

[Anonymous]

No, I'm a firm believer that the same sex parent is extra crucial to the child's development. But ofc fathers are important.

[NathanDavis]

we say mother nature for a reason... lol

[jahaims]

It is a leftover term from Greek mythology

[NathanDavis]

@jahaims so is god...

[rosemilk]

i think BOTH are needed

[avery58]

No... Both are needed.

[DishLady]

Nope. Each has their time and value to the person.