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To expand on this, there is this idea that being a parent is very different from wanting a baby.

To want a baby is to want to have something adorable to take care of, something cute that looks like you, that you can dress up how you like, that's completely reliant on you to teach it what it needs. Wanting a baby is wanting something that looks like you that you can bond with on a one-sided basis as babies are not smart enough to comprehend what a bond is, only that you provide them with food and love and shelter and give them what they need when they need it. They are totally helpless and you are helping them happily and find reward in taking care of them, but once the child begins to show signs of their own autonomy that begins to change.

Being a parent means being ready to help a child discover who they are, build on their autonomy, support them and learn new things about this child as they discover these new things, guiding them towards the path that is right for them even if it's one you disagree with on some level (i. e. religious parents helping their queer child be more comfortable being out to them). Being a parent means understanding that you are sacrificing for the sake of someone else and not only willingly accepting that but embracing it because watching your child become an adult is rewarding, despite all of the time you spend losing sleep, losing money, and losing energy to help your baby grow into a child, then a teenager, then an adult.

A narcissist, on the surface, is a person who has an excessive interest in or admiration of themselves. They often come as the most "charming" people around you & someone who never fails to NOT mention anything good they've been doing. Narcissists are not secure people and the "self interest and excessive admiration" that shows, is usually stemming from a deep deep insecurity. They have an insatiable need of people's (collectively, never a single person) validation, to feel valued. 'Never a single person' cuz they usually cannot care about anyone particular other than themselves. A lot of times they're just BLIND to see the harm they cause to the ones they "care" about (covert nar.). Their reasonings can be anything, at any level, to justify their own selves and their actions. They can never be argued with bcz their minds are incapable of seeing their own self at the 'wrong'. They have to "win". They live to win, "reputation" is the most important thing to them. They're incapable of being vulnerable (could be cuz of a past trauma) to others. They leech out the people they're with, if you've been through that mental exhaustion. They all have pretty much the same patterns. If you've been one of their victims, you can pick out those patterns easily. Manipulations, gaslighting, not being truthful, conditioning, twisting words are just few ways. I wish you all the best on your healing journey & hopefully (not smth good), those triggers are strong enough that you never trust such person again.
(my personal view of them 👆 you may correct me/or add to this (if u want to) but be polite)