4 Tips for Finding Your Perfect Match

[Largefriends001]

Whether you're new to the dating scene or a seasoned pro, it's always helpful to have some expert advice to guide you along the way.

Flirt with Your Eyes

Eye contact is one of the most important aspects of flirting. It can convey interest, confidence, and even attraction. But it's not just about staring into someone's eyes for an uncomfortable amount of time. The key is to use eye contact strategically and effectively.

Be Confident

Confidence is key when it comes to dating. It's important to believe in yourself and your worth and to not let rejection or negative experiences bring you down. One way to boost your confidence is to focus on your positive qualities and accomplishments. Make a list of things you're proud of and remind yourself of them often.

Plan the Perfect First Date

When planning a first date, it's important to consider your partner's interests and preferences. This will show that you care about their likes and dislikes, and will help ensure that the date is enjoyable for both of you.

Communicate Effectively

Effective communication is key to any successful relationship, and dating is no exception. Being able to express yourself clearly and listen actively will help build trust and understanding between you and your partner.

[jeffend888]

4 real tips for finding your perfect match:

1) Make sure your families are aligned. Ensure that the person you are dating gets along with their family and there's no mental issues on that side. Your family needs to like your spouse and vice versa. If not, it's perpetual hell.

2) Make sure you're both aligned on life choices. Meaning, confirm that the person you are dating wants kids or is open to kids, or vice versa. This has to match, otherwise it's perpetual hell until you break up.

3) Make sure you're both aligned on where to live. You want to live close to home but the other person wants to switch coasts? Or vice versa. Nope, not going to work. Get a read on that beforehand.

4) Make sure the person aligns financially. It's no secret that wealth always attracts to wealth and vice versa. Someone who comes from money or already has money is not going to match with someone who doesn't come from money or doesn't have money. This also ties back to family.

[love_conquers_lust]

Ideals can be strived for, but implementing is another story.

[jeffend888]

@love_conquers_lust Everyone I know checks all 4 of the above boxes. Clearly, it’s not as difficult as it’s made out to e.

[love_conquers_lust]

Everyone you know is a perfect match? Where the fuck do you live, Disneyland?

[jeffend888]

@love_conquers_lust Ever single person I know personally matches perfectly when it comes to reality. Meaning they align financially, family wise, life choices, etc...

Nobody is ever someone else's first choice when it comes to physical looks or romantic interests. But if you pick someone who you are not on the same page with, that is true hell.

[love_conquers_lust]

Item 3, aligned on where they live. Again, just where the fuck is that? Item 1, everyone has that crazy aunt, uncles, cousin, mom, father. Again, who the fuck have you been talking to? Item, fine, but who can afford them anyway, which ties into number 4.

If you rich, sure it's achievable. If you're not, which is over half the country in the US and still growing, it's not. Like I said, where the fuck do you live? The poor would like to know. Maybe they can go there to search for a better life which people like you keep telling us to do.

[jeffend888]

@love_conquers_lust Wealth attracts wealth. Always has, always will. I know that's a reality that's difficult to comprehend. People who come from wealthy and stable families always attract toward each other. People who don't come from that kind of stability always attract each other.

[love_conquers_lust]

Like attracts like. Yes. But getting all these factors to pull at the same time, at the same location, with the same magnitude is a shot at long odds. That's why the word compromise exists.

[Sweetsurprize]

@jeffend888 I guess my older brother got really lucky when he married his born rich wife from China. I wouldn't say he was poor but he was definitely a man that was working full-time with SOME savings in the bank but definitely no where near a Millionaire. She had more money than him and they are now living in a beautiful house overlooking the city lights down in Anaheim hills southern California, pretty much all thanks to her and her money. 90% down on a $700/800,000 plus home is no joke.

[jeffend888]

@Sweetsurprize There are exceptions to every rule.

[Sweetsurprize]

@jeffend888 Yeah, probably a rare thing though sadly. Wish I got that lucky. But I want to marry a white man so hmm lol. How many rich white men you may know? I'm a filipina with Chinese and Spanish ancestry.

[MadamLovesALot]

@love_conquers_lust don’t be a duck. Just cause you have a crap life doesn’t mean other people have too also!

[artgorgeous]

I wouldn't say that be confident is something like a switch. You can't just turn a switch and become confident at a date. It either you are confident person or not. So this requires a long path of becoming one prior to a date - years of life experience. If person overal is not confident about themselves, there is no way they can become confident next day, for example.

Therefore, if the person isn't confident, they will experience difficulties with effective communication.

[Anonymous]

I don't want perfection. I want good enough.

[Wwwyzzerdd]

Anyone thinks that looking at me is going to get to approach is in for a shock when I walk away. "Oh why didn't he approach me?" Oh probably bc you didn't even try to approach me or open me up with any direct cues, instead I'm supposed to understand semaphore and smoke signals sent by the other party. Yeah not happening, she clearly doesn't want to talk to me she just wants to fuck me with her eyes.

I always interpret "Be more confident" as the other person trying to actually say "Shutup, don't talk, just sit there and look pretty. Don't react to anything, don't show any emotions, become an immovable object while everything burns down around you." If she isn't doing stuff to boost my confidence and I'm feeling rejected, anxious, or depressed then the date is ending and she's not the one.

I'm doing something I find interesting, like/enjoy. If she wants to come along fine but I'm done putting myself in positions where I'm not having a good time just to make someone else happy. If she doesn't want to join me I'll go alone.

Good advice, communication will make or break a relationship. Any verbal abuse or signs of it and I'm done with the date, not having any more of that in my life.

[kakaling]

1) Never be insecure, don't play detective, that person is not your child.

2) Never be insecure, don't play detective, that person is not your child.

3) Never be insecure, don't play detective, that person is not your child.

4) Never be insecure, don't play detective, that person is not your child.

5) Never be insecure, don't play detective, that person is not your child.

[molonski2]

Very good general information to begin , give consideration always to presentation and coordination , if possible do you due diligence. Yes communication is vital.

[clampfan101]

I’m shy and unconfident, and afraid of accidentally staring in the wrong way.

[Christoff92]

Honesty
Good Personal traits
No impersonation
Courteous and polite 😀

[coffeeeholic]

That's mostly the energy. You are feeling it when you see them.

[whistlingwh0res]

And then have sex

get pregnant

have a baby

become a loser

[strateguy632]

good advice tnx

[In_Trance]

Whatever works for you

[Anonymous]

oh no... wrong side... wrong place to search

[Bitterness]

Good take!