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Even if they’re still single but the thought that this could happen

How do I get rid of these thoughts and feelings, it’s really eating me inside.

Its been over 6 months since our breakup
And recently my ex boyfriend popped up and said he still loves me and wants to meet me and talk
He wanted me back
But I said no

Then my ex boyfriend been messaging me everyday
Insulting me
"Ur a sl*t"
"Ur a b*tch"
"Ur ugly"
I just ignored those messages

Then he love bombed me again and saying sorry about everything he said above
And poured out his feelings from 12am to 3am

But i still said we can't be together anymore

Then now everyday he has been sending insulting rude messages again
And i tried to ignore them

He stopped the rude messages today though
didn't hear from him

Do you think he finally stopped? Or will message again?

This year I decided to move in with my Grandma and cousins. All my cousins are the same age, we grew up together and get along well. One of my cousins has a best friend who we see regularly and I grew quite fond of him. I had pushed my feelings to the side for a while but as our conversations with each other grew more frequent, my feelings grew. So one day, I confessed and he has also admitted to liking me too for a while.

We talked/flirted heavily with each other for like the first week after we confessed. We're both hopeless romantics, both fell hard and talked about a future together. However, he wanted to tell his best friend (my cousin) what was going on first before taking things further. Needless to say, things didn't go well. There's a 'rule' that my cousin's friends shouldn't go for close family and vice versa because in simple terms, it would complicate things. Also, I found out that this guy has a lot of issues in the romance dept and has led girls on in the past and his ex is kinda still in the picture (I've heard this from my cousins) there's a toxic pattern which he has never learned from apparently😭 He has told me that after talking to my cousin, he realised he wasn't ready to date despite his eagerness before. So we ended things on good terms and stopped talking. He's also not going to visit us as regularly.

Its been a week and my heart is SO heavy. I miss him so much. I grieve the future we could have had together cause I've literally never clicked with someone so fast.

I've talked to other close family about it and they think its none of my cousin's business, also dont understand why we can't figure things out together and believe my cousin is being manipulative. But my cousin would know his friend best right? There's also that bro code. I dont wanna ruin a close friendship.

But I don't know, should I text him? I miss talking to him, but it might further complicate an already fragile situation. Help?