Search Results: i think i should leave him

for some context:

This has been an issue since before the wildfires. The tourism industry does not directly help anybody of Native Hawaiian descent.
Some points to be made are that
1) some tourists disrespect the environment.

the increase in tourism has resulted in problems such as overcrowding, littering, an overextension of our rescue and emergency resources & damage to the fragile ecosystem. some native Hawaiians may feel that tourists do not show enough respect for the environment.

2) disrespect for the locals.

many visitors act rudely and entitled on their “expensive vacation” towards locals which can be seen as blatant disrespect to the culture and the residents. they step on sacred burial grounds to get a better view of a sunset & steal the lava rocks when they leave. they take the wrong way on illegal hikes - putting local first responders in danger & wasting already strained resources by needing to get rescued. they spray non-reef safe aerosol sunscreen all over the beach.
*granted- this is not every tourist but its enough to the point where they no longer want visitors.

3) economic disparities

some native hawaiians believe that the tourism industry has benefited more than the locals themselves. more and more natives are getting priced out of their homes from foreign or out of state investors and corporations. i think it is a common misconception that tourists believe they are helping the economy by spending lots of money but in reality the profits go to those corporations and not the natives.

and i just want to conclude this by saying while tourism in itself is a prevalent industry all over the world, it’s important to recognize the impact it causes on certain communities. There are other options out there!!!

Backstory: We’re acquaintances (friends of a friend.), we met at a party in the beginning of the year. He’d been trying to ask me out I had a lot of things happening all at once. Career change and moving figuring out if I’d continue to live in the area or find something back in my hometown. I stayed in the area, he helped me move my mattress. Then we’d been texting pretty much everyday and he’d FaceTime me twice just talking nothing crazy. I had car trouble, that he fixed. I couldn’t pay him he knows I cook so he asked me if that could be his payment. I said yeah. We were hanging out eating, smoked some weed and we both had stuff to get back to.

Current: I found free roller skating at a park and asked if he wanted to go. He said yes and it became a date. We ended up hooking up. We had some technical difficulties and planned for next weekend.

That next weekend, He asked if I still wanted to go to the movies with him, I said yes. Dressed a little fancy and we came back to my place to eat. We watched another movie he really wanted to see b/c he hadn’t seen it. Movie finished at 3am, I asked if he was going home he said he was really tired. I said he can sleep here if he wants he said yeah. Surprise he wasn’t that tired. We tried with the sex again. He thought he was hurting me I assured him he wasn’t. I don’t think he believed me and we just laid there talking for like a half hour and fell asleep. He also left his earring. I didn’t say anything about it though. After we were texting for four days. The responses weren’t dry or sparse everything normal. Then he suddenly stopped.

Should I text him just a simple “Hey, you good?” Or just keep being radio silent? I can at least think of five reasons: He’s not interested. He’s an introvert a social battery thing. Focused on finding a new apartment that I distracted him from twice. He actually wants a girlfriend (not sure why). Or it’s all those reasons. Should I just not say anything and leave him alone?

I haven’t seen my boyfriend for the past 6 weeks, I’m not worried about him cheating or anything, he is a true workaholic and leaves his workshop late at night. When I ask him to meet up after work he says he is tired and he doesn’t want to just come to my place and make me feel like we’re just sleeping together, he wants to take me on a proper date but he’s just too busy. He doesn’t really open up about his issues and I don’t know what is he going through, he texts me and calls me all the time, but we haven’t seen each other for 6 weeks now. When I ask him he keeps making me feel like I’m too needy and I hate this. I told him that I needed some time apart to think about our relationship, because this is the loneliest I have felt in my life and I hate it. I don’t see why am I the only one compromising in this relationship. Yesterday, I send him a message explaining why I feel so lonely in the relationship and what are my expectations and I told him that I need 2 weeks to think. He’s been messaging me asking me to talk to him, I really love him but I feel so hurt and I need time to figure things out. Should I leave his messages unanswered for the next 2 weeks? Or what? I’m so confused.