Girls approach me a lot, would they still go out with me after knowing that I'm broke?

[Anonymous]

So, I'm a handsome and sweet guy as I've been told. And apparently this is like kryptonite for women. So, I give a really good first impression. I have girls approaching me pretty much everywhere I go and sometimes they're all over me acting like we're already a couple... but I have to turn them down... Why? well, because I'm broke!.. I don't have a job and I'm living off my savings and I've never really worked for a living because, long story short... I've been battling depression my whole life ( almost 27 now ), been suicidal for a while but couldn't do it. I basically wasted my teens and twenties living in solitary... I'm planning on getting a job now and being a functional adult... But like everything new, it's baby steps... my question is am I right to think that girls despite really liking me as a person they will soon leave me after knowing that I don't have a job? At least temporary? I just don't want to get my heart broken I've already been through a lot. So should I continue pushing girls away until I make it and I have stability or there's a chance a girl won't mind the situation and we would have like a great love story to rewind in the future haha? Please be honest and realistic... keep in mind that it's really really hard to be single by choice when you're still young and healthy... That's why I'm having second thoughts!

[dynamicyandere]

You won the genetic lottery, so good on you for having naturally good looks.


That’ll give you a huge advantage for initial attraction.


As for your financial situation and your mental health, that’s very important to work on though.


Especially, your mental health.


It’s difficult to have healthy relationships when we’re struggling through mental health issues.


But hey, it’s great that you want to do something about your financial situation.


I’ve heard that for many men, and I can attest to this from my own personal experience as well, what has helped them with their mental health the most is focusing on self-improvement.


Women like men who have their sh*t together.


That means your mental health, your physical health, your finances, your independence, etc.


But above all these things is your mindset.


Because even if you aren’t where you want to be, women will still be attracted to you if you’re serious about going places—if you’re serious about pursuing your goals and dreams and changing your life.


That drive and determination shows your potential, and as long as that’s real, and you’re ACTIVELY pursuing your goals?


You’re golden.


I hope that helps!

[Asker]

It did 😄👍👍

[dynamicyandere]

I’m glad. 🙂

Continuous self-improvement is an endless but highly rewarding journey.

I wish you the best! 💪

[Asker]

Thank you 😄... you too 👍

[Avicenna]

Some women will date a broke guy as long as it appears to be a temporary condition. That said, you don't sound like you're in the right place emotionally to date right now, and that's what you should be concerned about as regards dating.

[Asker]

I think you're right

[_Maya_]

Okay to answer the first part about dating someone that is broke. Yes I would as long as he was actively trying to fix that problem. Dating doesn't HAVE to be expensive. I don't need gifts or fancy meals. There are a lot of things that you can do that cost nothing or barely anything at all. Here is my problem with the situation you present. You shouldn't be dating until you get your issues sorted out. I am not knocking that you have depression. That is a serious thing and could cost you your life. You need to focus on getting yourself right before thinking about a relationship.

[Asker]

Yes I know , .. But like I said it's kinda hard to be single by choice especially when you're still young. I feel like missing out a lot... " Yes I would as long as he was actively trying to fix that problem." thanks that sounds promising

[_Maya_]

Yeah as long as you aren't intentionally being lazy and trying to find a job then that is cool by me. Like I said... if we dated there are lots of things that I just love to do that don't cost hardly a thing.

[Asker]

I hope there's a lot of girls with your mindset 👍

[_Maya_]

There are. The ones that aren't are not worth your time. If you can't have fun without spending a lot of money there is something wrong. Example... I love the beach and live near one. Wanna know how much it costs to go sit at the beach and enjoy a nice summer day? Cost one beach towel and some good conversation.

[Asker]

You're totally right.

[dynamicyandere]

Really good answer here. 🥂

[_Maya_]

@dynamicyandere thank you!

[Anonymous]

Idc if he's broke. I'll still date the guy if I really love him considering he's sweet and such. We can get around it.

[Asker]

Aww that's wholesome 😄

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah😊 by the way even though I'm a stranger.. I'm sorry to hear about your past. I wanted to say that I think you're doing great for trying your best to move forward despite your depression even though it can be hard. I wish you the best in your future, you got this!<3

[Asker]

Thank you 😊... you never know how a small gesture can brighten someone's day.. I really appreciate it 🙏

[Opinion Owner]

No problem❤️❤️

[Anonymous]

Most likely not, so don't date at all till you afford to ask a girl out.