Why should I do with her?

[dgr97]

She is too indifferent to when I tell her how bad I am. It seems like every time I want to talk about it she's rushing me. I can never finish saying what I want to say, and her attitude is to say that everything is fine, and that she is the one who just feels a little busy, and with things on her head. She doesn't even ask about me, or she talks to me during the day. She no longer does things that she used to do all the time, and now it seems like I'm asking her to do very difficult things. I've tried everything, but it seems that she never takes what I tell her seriously, because she really doesn't see any danger in continuing to behave that way indifferent to me, since I always pay attention to her when it comes to talking, but she listens for a while and then change the subject. All of this is tiring me, but I don't want to leave, even though I know that's what she might do if this continues. What do you think?

[_Maya_]

Uh... who is "she"? Some context to that would be really helpful. Is she a friend, girlfriend, sister? Like who is SHE? It is really hard to answer this question without knowing the relationship you have with her. If you tell me that I might be able to give a good opinion. Without it there are too many directions I could go with it and all would be random guesses.

[dgr97]

It's true, I missed a lot of context. You could say that she is my ex, and she left last year, and this year she wanted to get back in touch with me. So you could say we've been trying to see if we can get together. We are nothing, but "we want to become it". So I know that in reality we are still nothing. And she forgot to add that she told me that she got a little bored when she heard my voice muffled because I'm sad, and that seems bad to me, because she already knows the reasons why I'm like this, and it seems like she always wants me to be laughing and doing jokes, but I can't when all this is getting to me. Am I wrong for that?

[_Maya_]

Ah, ah, ah. Now I get it. Thanks! That is helpful know who she is to you. So an ex... well that is tough. No I don't think you are wrong for that. You can't just be expected to put on a happy face when you are not happy. No one should expect that.

[dgr97]

And I feel horrible, because I question myself, and I wonder if I'm wrong for not laughing when I can't, because her attitude affects me. But she doesn't seem to question if she should change how she behaves herself, or if she should pay more attention to her when I want to talk about my feelings. I feel totally disrespected, and I don't know what to do, because I love her so much, and I've tried to change the things that I feel I've been wrong about, and I've also apologized, but I don't feel like it's the same from her.

[_Maya_]

I don't think you are wrong. Sounds like you both need some more time to really figure out if this is the right thing. It is clear you are not happy with her completely.

[dgr97]

I am not happy with all this, it causes me a lot of concern. Besides I don't feel as important as before if I used to. I don't know, she makes me sad, but sometimes she doesn't even answer what I write to her, and she disappears. She says that sometimes she is very busy, but her attitude is too weird, because she does a lot of ghosting. I have already told her that these attitudes could bore me one day, and she is aware of that, and it doesn't make sense to me, because if she already knows it, why does she keep doing it? I don't understand anything