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I’ve been seeing this girl Selina for 2 weeks now. We’re not official and have only gone on one date but it was with a group. Her best friend Pam seems to like me too, but she might be testing me.

We all go to the same church. I usually sit on the right side in the 4th row from the front. Selina usually sits in the front with the praise team and Pam sits in random places.

Last service, Pam gets to church before me and sits in my spot. I look at the row in front but I see a purse blocking 3 seats so I sit in the 4th row a few seats down from Pam. As church starts filling up, Pam grabs the purse, looks at me, and says, “Guess church is gonna be packed today”. Then she moves all the way next to me.

Selina goes up to sing during song service and constantly looks over at us. Pam keeps brushing up against me and singing in my ear and I keep scooting away from her.

Then after service, Pam starts playing with her hair and asking me questions about my friends and future travel plans. I keep it brief and go find Selina.

As I said before, they’re best friends. Is Pam trying to test my loyalty to Selina? Or does she like me too and is trying to win me over? If Pam likes me, how can I make her respect me & Selina even though we’re not official yet? If she doesn’t like me, is she testing me and how can I get her to stop? I do not want to deal with her annoying behavior every week at church if she keeps this up.

The whole premise of this website is to ask the opposite gender about dating and relationship questions. Given we are anonymous it’s easier to ask questions and get responses without worry about losing face.

And yet I find that most women I talk to do NOT often give good dating advice. I feel that they usually respond to “protect the team” i. e. tell me what to do which is in best interest to another random woman vs. really trying to understand my POV.

For what it’s worth it’s extremely difficult to think and understand the opposite gender. But I don’t always respond to “protect some other guy” depending on the circumstance a woman is going through and asking about.

Sometimes i see women talking about emotionally abusive relationships and encourage them to get tough and draw the line. They struggle because they have feelings which are compromising their judgment (can be true on the man’s side as well). But I don’t like seeing dbag guys get away with that crap. I sure as hell won’t tell the girl to keep enabling them.

But I feel that most women on here (and in general) always give the other woman the benefit of the doubt when they are giving advice to guys. Guys aren’t looking for the answer they want to hear on here. They want the truth so when we ask questions we rarely embellish our circumstances.

Anyway when I am dealing with tough dating situations I find that other men usually give better advice then women. Reason being they are feeling emotions I am feeling so they can look at issue more clear headed. It might be not what I want to hear. But what I NEED to hear. That is what matters.