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I have this guy in my class whom I’ve known for a long time from an old school. We both moved to the same college, and since we didn’t know anyone there, we naturally started talking more. Recently, as we’ve been spending more one-on-one time together, I’ve started developing feelings for him.

I’ve heard that most guys believe men and women can’t really be just friends, so I thought that by spending more time together and getting closer, maybe he’d start to like me too. I consider myself an attractive person—people tend to turn their heads when I enter a room—so I wonder if he sees me as just a friend or if he might want something more.

The only thing that makes me doubt is that I’m four years older than him, and I wonder if that affects how he sees me. One thing I’m sure about is that if he wanted a hookup, he wouldn’t say no—but I’m not sure if he would actually want a relationship with me.

Which would be the better option if you were approaching 40 and want to just start a family asap.

you have a part time job online and No time to meet others to get to know them, you have to just jump now or lose your only chance

None of these are ideal of course but that’s life we have to work with what we get.

which is the better option?

Person 1: is attractive, tall (182cm), fit, lives with his mom, poor, trying to find a job but doesn’t have one yet. He feels depressed and has anxiety because can’t find a job and doesn’t know how to get out of that situation fast. He wants a family but feels he can’t because of his situation.

Person 2: not so attractive but not super ugly, he’s overweight with big stomach, short (175cm) not rich but has his own flat, has a job, has mouth herpes, (you will have it too if you choose this one) and if you have children with this person likely your children will have it too he said. This person is not depressed but feels pressure and sadness that he has not found a partner yet to build a family.

if you’re a man imagine it was your situation it as if they are the women and you have to choose.

One is attractive, in face and body but poor and depressed about it.

the other one is not so attractive, overweight, has a job, own flat but has mouth herpes.

which would you choose if you just had no more time to meet others.

I know i likely am, and i genuinely dont think he's interested or anything, and even if he was it would be illegal, but I've developed a big crush on the IT guy at college (he does exams aswell) . I've been there part time since last September (although I've been doing online courses before) at night class and now daytime for one day. My room at night class was on the same corridor as his office, and actually even when i first met him/seen him then i teased him about the last time i did an exam cos he took forever to get the password right 😂😂i actually thought he was a bit odd, bit of a dork at first, like he isn't even remotely attractive but still there seems to be something for me to be attracted to him, which is why im struggling with this/being around him. We spent a lot of time on our own organizing my exam and i need a specific chair for my health (back/tinnitus) and so i would have ventured into his room a lot, he never cared or said i wasn't allowed (im not allowed there in the other campus) there was an actual pinpoint of where it started i guess i seen him in a different light, im sure he was just doing his job but he told me something about my daytime course from his diary that he shouldn't have, gave me his chair for my exam to sit on and just generally been nice to me even though most people are sick of me😂😂

Anyway it was the last night of the course (2 days before my exam) and i was stood near the doorway of the room and there's a little bit of the room that has another door inbetween (there's a printer) and of course i only turned my head for a split second as he's walking past (and no, didn't even know he was there) u can guess it, im convinced there was an eye contact of some sort😂😂 and yet i know deep down it likely wasn't. My teacher pushed me to go see him regarding my exam and it actually felt so awkward and later im literally staring at him and getting distracted 😂😂

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