How do I cheer my friend up?

[MoonFace2]

My best guy friend is feeling sad and he’s sulking, because when we went to a Valentine’s Day dance together, despite his best efforts, no one was interested in dating him and no one approached him, except his friends, to hang out.

He texted me two nights ago, telling me he’s turning off his text message notifications, temporarily.

The thing is, he continuously has no luck, because he hits on women young enough to be his daughter and women much more attractive than himself and while he’s a lovely guy and an awesome best mate, he’s fat and unattractive.

If he lost weight, he’d be attractive, but he expects people to appreciate his inner beauty; as do my other unattractive friends about theirs and that’s not how the world works. He’s a compulsive eater, so he isn’t willing to address his issues. I can’t tell him this, though.

The question is, how do I cheer him up when he comes back? Should I organise a friend group bbq or a fancy lunch somewhere with a friend group of us?

Updates

1 y

Don’t give me the inner beauty talk. While it’s important to have inner beauty, there’s got to be something on the outside to attract people, too. Usually. That’s just the way the world works, like it or not.

[HollyK21]

This man is sulking over his own life choices that he doesn’t want to change, and as much as you hate to see him upset, you should help him try to understand that he’s doing this to himself. Being severely overweight, probably no skincare routine or sense of style, he can do better but when he has the people around him throwing bbqs instead of hitting him with a wake up call then he will never better himself.

The truth hurts but he should know where your heart is when you give him feedback and that nothing you say/suggest is to hinder or hurt him.

[Staximus]

Tell him he'll have better luck in the dating world if he stays in his league and stops having unrealistic expectations. People say there are no leagues, but realistically that only applies to ridiculously good looking and ridiculously rich people. Or if you razzle dazzle them with some rockstar bullshit. I used to work at a live music venue, and many times I saw the hottest girl in the place with some guy that looked like a total fucking dweeb because he was in a band she liked.

[Swordnen]

There are some factors involved, like
How he dressed,
How he is groomed
How much money he is showing


And definitely the age gap between the man and women

If he tries age of himself with proper attire and everything
His luck might boost

I am not saying he should be in suit but proper attire should be there

[slatyb]

You may not be able to cheer up someone who is too depressed to attempt to change their circumstances. He needs professional help.

[In_Trance]

I don't think he would want to barbecue if he's turning his notifications off

[Ariesman81]

Titties... titties make everything better