What do you do to cheer up your friends?

Question

Your friend is stressing about something and not happy... What do you do to cheer him/her up? I'm interested in knowing what works for your friend specifically, haha...

Lokiion · Accepted Answer

It really depends I'm a pretty open dude, so I got a lot of friends, but not like, a lot of close friends, if that makes sense? Basically, I talk to tons of different people every day, and they are all completely different, like, everything you can imagine, I've probably met someone like that.

So, with everyone, first I listen to what they're saying, and I try to make sure they know I'm actually listening, if it's my guy friends, I'll usually give them pretty straightforward advice. 'Cause most of the time, from what I've seen, that's what they prefer. Obviously, there are exceptions, but like, 8 out of 10 times, that's how they want me to handle it. And after we talk, we'll usually go do something active, like play some pickup basketball or something else like that.

For girls, it's more like 50/50, to be honest. Some want me to give straightforward advice. But then I also have some friends who just need emotional support, which I try to do, haha. I'm not gonna lie, I'm not the best at that 'cause I'm not really a super emotional person, or a super wordy guy unless I'm telling stories or something. Anyway, with them, I usually recommend going thrifting, since I've never met anyone who doesn't enjoy shopping.

And with both guys and girls, you gotta get food after because who doesn't like food? So after talking or doing something, we'll usually grab some food, and just chill and talk about whatever comes to mind. Could be just random small talk, could be serious stuff, or just telling stories, and after that's done they usually feel better.

WhiteSteve · Accepted Answer

I’m a good-times guy, I’m kind of uncomfortable in emotional support situations, tbh. I mean, I WOULD, I wouldn’t be like “tough break, suck it up” or say I had somewhere else to be. Like I feel like I have the emotional intelligence for it but I’m not built to be around sadness, or being serious😅 I’m built to keep the vibes up.

My best play is to make them laugh. I’m good at that, with a lot of people, I think. But some situations, or just some people, they just aren’t looking to laugh, and you don’t want to go the wrong way with it and upset them by not being serious enough. I think I can read that well, at least, and know quickly if it’s the way to go or not.

I’ve heard before that, at least in the case of women, some gals are irritated that guys try to solve their problem for them (which is one of the reasons for my discomfort, I feel obligated to come up with the solution), when all they want is for someone to put an arm around them and say “Damn, that sucks. I’m sorry.” Which is funny to me, because if I had the problem, I’m not usually the type to seek out advice on it, but if I did talk to someone, I’d be looking for ideas. If they were like “that sucks. I’m sorry.”, I probably wouldn’t say it out loud, but in my mind I’d be like “what good does that do me?” Wired differently, haha

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

Being a very good listener and not interrupt her. But keep 👁️👁️ contact with her so she knows that you are interested in listening to her.

Ask her if she wants advice or if she just needed to vent.

Make her something cozy to warm up to since it's winter.

Try to not allow too many detractions while she's talking.

Tell her if there's anything you can do for her to be sure to let you know.

Maybe a hug 🫂 before she leaves.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

I may not be good with words to lift their spirits but I'm very empathetic. Usually they end up having to cheer me up because I feel their pain so much, that I need my spirits lifted lol Then I'll ask them if I was any help, their usual response is, "You did make me laugh". I'm a mess! 😂

Sarah2007 · Answer

I hang out with them and spend the day with them, I chill with them in the house, I swim with them, I try to be fun around them, and I distract them from having stressful thoughts.

Most of my friends feel amazing when I'm with them. For example, there is one friend who always wants to lift me over his head or to bench press me whenever he's stressed. He finds it fun and it makes him feel amazing when he lifts me up.

dustybiker2 · Answer

I never sugar coat or cheer. I'm the person people come to for tough love, shake them up when ready to stop hearing sugar coating from others. They know I love them though. It's not to hurt but to get them out of an occasional rut we all get stuck in.

Miah06 · Answer

First i talk to them, let them vent for as long as they need.

and i will then do something really silly to make them laugh.

Like dressing up in a giant teddy suit and dancing. And then when they ready we gonna go get something to eat or see a movie, or shop.

Sevenpointfive · Answer

i don't have but one friend. and i'd never do this because i'm a guy. i'd buy a really nice cupcake. i'd buy a candle to stick into it. i'd surprise them with a lit cupcake at your place after a long discussion. let them become reborn mentally through a wish. it could snap them back

Brucewayne123 · Answer

I’m sure you don’t need cheering up but I just wanted to compliment your new profile picture is gorgeous. Your lips look so full and kissable. I really don’t know how I could decide if you gave me the choice between kissing them or kissing eating your bubbly ass. 😊

LiaRaven · Answer

I have been in similar situations before. Usually I focus on spending time with them, talk to them, try not to leave them alone. I'll be on a silent mood and let them talk as much as they want to decrease their stress. Maybe try to joke with them, but that won't help much if they are very stressed in my opinion.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Our minds are a beautiful thing & our memories are magical. Some say a smile is always followed by a smile so if you want to cheer up a friend start by smiling. A trip is always a good thing but a trip down memory land might do the trick.

Talk to your friend & let your friend talk as well.

Raphaëlle · Answer

Do something nice together that you both enjoy or plan something which your friend will enjoy. I try to read the room if it's one of those hang outs when we just wanna have fun or if it's one more serious catch up where we sit down and talk with each other.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Just be around, offer possible solutions if there are any, let them feel however they feel. If they want to talk, we can, if not we can just bullshit and take their mind off what ever is bothering them for awhile.

LadyBecks · Answer

A lot like the picture - sitting, listening, talking, getting coffee

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Send her “drink till I feel better” Apple Cash and make sure she sends me proof of her drinking her drink. If not I cook for her and surprise her when she gets off work.

FreyaRed · Answer

They want rather a solutions than a shoulder to cry. However some of their problems are caused by themselves which are difficult to resolve without will to change themselves.

DishLady · Answer

Just sit and listen… perhaps a little reminiscing about fun adventures we had… a show or activity he/she will like. Or just a simple chat over a cheesy board game and a glass of wine.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Tell them to stop stressing before I stuff a basketball sized Dino nuggie up their a-

AydenHazor · Answer

Depends on the friend. Some I'll show up with food, others will be a hug or cuddling up to watch a movie together, some will just be sitting and listening to them talk it all out. You guys know your individual friend and what they want and need

thatshydork · Answer

Usually I bring them something like a basket of cheap candies or I help them calm down by doing breathing exercises with them

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Inviting a friend for a cup of coffee is a good idea, I'm a very good listener.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Depends on what they are stressed about I suppose.

Anonymous · Answer

Lol if it’s a she there is ONE way I can cheer her up…. Why are you stressed?

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Talk to him about old candy and other 60's- and 70's-era goodies !!!

Knightwatch27 · Answer

Jokes, laughter in general, nerding out on history together.

SheScorpio04 · Answer

Cheesy funny movies, ben and Jerry.

Kaynkay · Answer

i lift my friends spirits by making them laugh. Im the comedian

exitseven · Answer

I would take him on an adventure.

jamesgoldman · Answer

Fix them a drink

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Go out to eat or shopping

princeofromance · Answer

I listen and give advice if needed.

Jerre · Answer

Give multiple orgasms

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Go out to eat or shop together

CubaPirate · Answer

Take them to the pub

eagle1951 · Answer

joke around

lindeasy · Answer

I hunt them head

DrPepper12 · Answer

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