My girlfriend always rejects sex?

[Anonymous]

When I try to have sex with my girlfriend she always rejects me. We used to have sex a lot back when we started dating and now every time I want to have sex I get rejected, it’s really bothering me and it got to the point where I want to cheat. We go months without having sex. When we do have sex she says in the middle it hurts and doesn’t let me finish then I wait for a month more. I can’t cheat I wasn’t raised to cheat. I feel like she doesn’t find me attractive anymore or doesn’t like having sex with me anymore. I don't know what to do

[Danielle93]

Even though getting rejected for intimacy is hurtful, did you guys also spend quality time outside of the bedroom and done fun activities (ex: doing hobbies you both like and enjoy, whether it's hiking, participating on a science club, going on a trip, etc) too? Or does the bedroom take over more than being outside?

Sometimes too much sex and less dates, less outside activities can become stagnant. There has to be a balance. It isn't just about sex. Though sex after a fun activity is better. Lastly do you guys have similar likes besides the bedroom?

[itsannalee]

Maybe she cheats on you, or even too tired.


I mean it could be psychologically tired, there is something on her mind or are you sure she is not suffering anything? Illness?
There are a lot things who make women feel pain during sex like Vaginismus, Endometriosis, Vulvodynia, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID), Yeast Infections, Herpes or even HIV/AIDS. Better solution is just talk to her.

[Asker]

I did and she said it’s nothing she doesn’t know what it is

[lightbulb27]

Good! put a ring on it.

but there could be other problems.

Why the H do you think you have a right to her vagina without offering anything but a penis? What is wrong with people? how you write... is cearly, very selfish.

clearly though, something went wrong... probably emotional, but could be physical.

[Asker]

Selfish? I pay the bills and rent and food on the table

[lightbulb27]

Fair but still… thats a reproductive thing… if bot secure is problem. Or other issue. Talk

[Finchie40]

Then you are best to leave her and find yourself someone that enjoys having sex with you on a regular basis , if your girlfriend isn’t willing to compromise with you then you are best to end it with her and move on

[AI Opinion]

You're in a tough spot, and I totally get it. Relationships are all about connection, and a lack of intimacy can feel harsh. Instead of jumping to conclusions like cheating (huge red flag), try an open-hearted convo with your girlfriend about her feelings and any barriers to intimacy. There might be something deeper she's going through. You're both on the same team, so putting those cards on the table might just reignite that spark! ❤️ Good luck, romance warrior! 🕺💃

[Finchie40]

Then you are best to leave her and find yourself someone that enjoys having sex with you on a regular basis , if your girlfriend isn’t willing to compromise with you then you are best to end it with her and move on

[Anonymous]

You aren't making her feel safe or comfortable. She's probably holding herself tight, dry from lack of genuine foreplay to the point she is actually turned on and ready. And you are forcing things.
Has anyone ever forced you to do something? How fun was that?

You sound like roommate's. I'm surprised she hasn't left.

[Asker]

Is it , there was a lot of foreplay and she still doesn’t get turnt on. Any other girl I tried always got turnt on by me

[Asker]

Now it’s my fault?

[Asker]

I should be the one that leaves her

[Opinion Owner]

It might be neither of your faults if you aren't a good match. I can't tell from here and only hearing your side of the story.

[Anonymous]

Constant rejection is hurtful, drives a wedge between the two of you, and I wonder what she thinks you'll do - it's not like you can turn it off, right?
However, there's probably reasons for her behaviour. Medical or emotional. You need honest dialogue to get to the root of it. Maybe your are not doing stuff, she's got her head in the sky, medical conditions, therapy, who knows. So find out.

[PeachyPie93]

I break up.. no need to cheat just find someone more suitable.

[GrinchyTsy]

My now ex husband did this. Not saying the same but he constantly had excuses and in the middle stopped. Found out he was cheating from day 1.

[dudeinohio]

You are sexually incompatible. You need to dump her and find someone new.

[Anonymous]

For sure she's not attracted to you anymore and she's fucking another guy. Dump her ass.

[Fanfare690]

Foreplay foreplay foreplay
Make shit romantic

[Asker]

Tried

[Fanfare690]

Get her drunk

[Asker]

Tried that too, gave her wine she drank it but she doesn’t drink alcohol too much

[Fanfare690]

Maybe fill her other cups. Try going on dates. She may dislike you. Find out the truth