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Not too long ago I went on date for the hell of it with a young woman I had very little physical attraction for. But I treated her well, bought her drinks, engaged in a good conversation and even drove her back to her place.

After some discussion she made a very insulting comment about my haircut a few moments after I dropped her off. Taken aback and pissed off I just said “well fuck you & have a good night” and left. I did nothing to provoke her. I didn’t hit on her.

The next day I sent her a DM saying “that haircut comment was mean”. She responded “you know what you are completely right. You did absolutely nothing to deserve it. I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me”. She then proceeded to literally beg to me (not exaggerating) to go on a second date. She kept going off on how cute I was & everything else.

I told her I felt better that she apologized but I declined. I wished her the best.

I later asked myself (and should have asked her) would she have apologized if she did not find me attractive? I highly doubt it. Her apology wasn’t truly genuine because there was still something in it for her.

The world isn’t fair. It’s obviously easier to mistreat people who are of little or no value to you. It’s like seeing a homeless person. There is virtually nothing they can do for you (and they can be annoying or even dangerous). But would you do something nice for them and do it discreetly (not for optics)?

It is just in my experience especially with dating is that women have a harder time respecting men they don’t find value in.

To a limited extent I can understand they don’t want to give the guy the wrong idea. But once a woman determines a man is of little use to her she feels like it’s okay to disrespect him much more then vice versa

I have been in the reverse position a few times. I won’t bend over backwards for those women. But I won’t ghost or disrespect them either. I will politely turn them down.

A little context. I’m (22M) and I’ve been currently talking to this girl for about a month and I’m conflicted if I should tell her I’m on deferred probation soon or about 3-6 months in. Make a long story, I used to do psychedelics and it ended with me being on probation 7 years but I can get off in 3 1/2 years if I don’t violate it and meet all my requirements. This happened like a year ago and ever since then I don’t do ANY drugs or are around anyone/anything that’ll lead me to violate my probation. It was a big mistake. I’ve been slowly completing my probation requires and have 5 days left of labor detail and still have to start on my community service, which I plan on doing about 2-4 hrs a week. I have my own place, car, job, and am currently building a business which I plan on launching by the end of this year. I have a mentor and business advisor and work on my business nearly everyday and I am very passionate about it and I believe she can tell too or at least is really realizing it (I already told her I’m passionate about my business and just business in general). I take very good care of myself, no kids, masculine, and intelligent. But at the end of the day I feel like once she hears I’m on probation it’s gonna automatically be a no go. Any advice or suggestions will be greatly appreciated.