Girls, Ladies, Do you feel like its ok to shame the person who asked you on a date for his choice of Meal spots?

[Anonymous]

I asked this because under the current Regime Fast food is just as expensive as going to a sit down restaurant. In the following video, the lady asked him out for lunch, and so he took her to shake shack (love that place by the way), and she was shitty to him, even though he spent 50 dollars on her, Which she should feel DAMN lucky he spent anything at all on her, let alone 50 bucks. And she has the audacity to put him on tiktok to shame him.

Ladies, if he is choosing to pay for you on a date you dont get to complain, nor control, nor question how he spends his money, you should be grateful that he even chose to spend a penny on you. I swear the attitude of some of these women is just sad. What happened to ladies who said "The date should just be fun, you dont have to have a lot of money to have fun."

[MzAsh]

I’d look for signs of effort. Did he put thought into the date plans? Did he make reservations? Did he investigate what kind of food I like? What kind of environment I like? Or he is going to be lazy and just ask me “idk where do you wanna go?” If he’s asking for the date, then he’s the one who’s treating you. He’s the one who feels lucky to be out with you, and that should shine through.


That said, I don’t expect an expensive restaurant. I’ve been on a few awesome cheap dates because they were thoughtful and well planned.


I wouldn’t shame the man if he dropped the ball with me. I’ve been on other dates that were lame af, but I didn’t take to the internet to blab about it. I just deleted his number and stopped talking to him.

[msmissydc]

No, the quality of the date is the important thing not the momey or place spend.
One exception: If I say i dont like lets say bowling, it would be stupid if he thought 'yeah lets go bowling'.

[Asker]

Oh I definitely get that. It's why I don't believe the guy should do 100% of the planning, I feel like he should be allowed to ask her what sounds fun to her.

Like for example I'm on your side with bowling, and golf lol, but a trip to the local art gallery, or a museum, or a music venue, or a freaking walk next to the river.. Anything but bowling or golf lol.

[msmissydc]

Yes, there are tons of 'free dates' that work well. Just plan it together. Find a common ground. Works better for everyone.

[Tamera952]

100% agree. The nerve!! She should be grateful, period the end. How awful people are to one another!

[AngelLily]

I felt so bad for the dude throughout the whole entire video.

[laly520]

it isn't ok to shame anyone