No, I definitely wouldn't expect that from the get go. Now, if my woman started making me dinner for years and years to where it is expected, conditioned, or normalized from me, then it might be odd when she suddenly stops or doesn't want to make dinner. I think it's okay for couples in a relationship to assign themselves to certain jobs or tasks that they themselves only do. For example, if the man in the couple usually does the plumbing, manual labor, oil changing, etc. then that is fine, and it would be normal for the woman in this relationship to expect her man to do these things when they need to be done. I'm not the world's best cook, but with practice and dedication, I'm certain I can prepare good meals for the both of us, time permitting. Obviously, if I work a lot and my woman has a more relaxed, unorthodox, or freeing schedule, then it might be more reasonable for her to do certain things as opposed to me, vice versa.
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It always made me smile and feel good when she did.
It also made her smile when i got up for seconds, took her plate, asked what she wanted from the kitchen, and served her second plate to her at her seat.
Just treat people how you want to be treated. It's really that simple. If they can't do the same. They probably aren't worth it.
Lol I wouldn't think about it like that, I'd probably serve plates if I had a family. Stuff like that, but overall I think it's weird to expect that. It's just an above and beyond thing honestly.
It can be done but not expected situation.
In my marriage it's a simple case of whoever makes the meal normally serves it.
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I think it's reasonable to expect this if he's the one providing for all the needs of the household (as he should be). My mom said that if you bring home the bacon, you shouldn't be expected to cook it, too. I agree with that.
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No, that was an expectation in my parent's generation but most guys my age are not that chauvinistic.
Hell No !! Get your ass in the bedroom with a proper tray! :+)-
I sometimes do it for my husband
I cook my own food. I’m pretty sure I’ll be designated cook once I marry. I like making my own food, it taste great and saves me money. I’m the type of guy that will come home and make myself a meal if I’m hungry and before I do, I’d look to her while she’s watching tv or reading (or whatever my future wife is into) and ask her if she ate. If she says no I’ll cook her something too. And once I have kids I’ll definitely be making sure they’re eating breakfast, lunch and dinner so cooking would become routine.
Come to think of it I don’t think I’ve ever been with a girl who “cooked” for me. I know I’ve been invited to family dinner. My ex’s sister made us dinner too but she was a culinary student and my ex couldn’t cook. But I’ve cooked for most of the girls I’ve been with. If they spent the night or if I spent the night with them, I usually made them breakfast. I’ve made dinners for date nights.
The thought of a girl serving me has never crossed my mind until now. Don’t get me wrong I’ve met some pretty cool women. I’ve gotten gifts, invited to family get togethers, holidays, etc. But as far as meals go, I’m usually the one cooking.
I’ve never expected girls to “serve” me. That just has never been an attitude I adopted. If she cooks for me without me asking it’s a bonus. Everyone likes a thoughtful person. But if she didn’t like cooking or couldn’t cook I wouldn’t be like, “Well what good are you if you’re not in the kitchen?” I’m grown. I can make my own meals. But she definitely wouldn’t make it a habit of taking our kids out to eatI don't cook, because it makes me anxious and frustrated and jittery because of the stress it causes me trying to cook. I ruin everything I try to make without fail. Because of this, my fiancee cooks everything for me. But I do not ever expect her to make my plate for me, but I do ask if I'm doing something (like reading her a book and wanting to get to a stopping point if I can't before she gets done cooking.)
Is that unreasonable?Not in the way this question puts it.
I love to cook for my lady, I feel it's one of the ways I can show her how special she is to me. But I also like to be treated with the same care as well.
I'm Also a little old fashioned and do eat dinner at the table between 5 and 8 each night when life allows.
So I prefer we trade off , but I usually cook more since I actually enjoy seeing what reaction I give her with different dishes ^.^I typically cook and never expect her to just do it. Even if she takes time off work to raise our kids someday, I don't expect her to make food for me regularly or anything. We take care of each other.
It's nice every once in a while to just have food brought to me without thinking about it, but usually we help each other prepare food or I just do it.nope never have even when i was working long nights etc, relationships are about give and take and each one where we both cooked I mostly cooked, but whenever they I got up and got my own food from the side or they passed it me or i passed them theirs
Cook or serve?
I cook and I expect my girlfriend to cook too unless we agree that I'm doing all of the cooking.
As for serving my plate to me like a waiter... Not necessary. It's nice if she does, and it shows extra effort and kindness, so I'm not going to say no either.expect, of course not. Interesting in that my mother did that for my family and that was th emodel, she served my dad as mom was home and he worked. But... my GF's in general worked, other than when they were out of work, and I don't expect her to wear all those hats. I like working along with either she cooks and I cleanup or reverse, team work.
I do not expect or require any former or future spouse. To set the table, service me meals or other meals, prepare meals or cook meals. That being said I do hope they at least have the ability to do so when asked to. Because I believe all people should have basic life skills. Provide they are physically and mentally able to perform them.
If I’m paying for all the shit, then yes. If I cover mortgage, food, utilities, then you can get your lazy ass up and make me a sandwich without getting all offended.
Honestly, every woman I’ve ever seriously dated has always had no issues cooking and organizing my things around the house. Nurture is a very attractive quality in a woman, and if the women I want to date want to do that for me, then why would I want anyone else who refuses to?I've usually been the better cook so I tend to serve it, thats not bigging up my cooking skills (though I'd say I'm just slightly better than competent but very, very average lol), In fact the first girl I dated when I moved away from home (went to Uni) I'm pretty certain mainly went out with me as a cooking arrangement, she paid for the ingredients and I cooked the food... there's a metaphor for my life somewhere in there lol
It beats having her serve it on the driveway.
Seriously,
I do most of the cooking when we are together, so it's pretty much of a mash-up.
I'll load the dishwasher with "regular " plates, and she'/ll hand wash the odd items and plasticware.
When our schedule do not coincide, it's everyone for themselves.I mean if he’s doing his part in the relationship why not? He deserves to get served it’s a little simple luxury of making them feel good everyday... I like doing it... but if he doesn’t do anything then no.
If I did I'd be unhappy in this relationship I'm in now because I do most of the cooking and she does it every hear and there. But I love to cook so I like where I am. I make stuff she's never had before and sometimes they're good sometimes they're... less good. But a man shouldn't expect things to be done for them unless there is an agreement of some sort. Me personally I'll cook for my lady no complaints If she doesn't cook. But sometimes I'll ask her to cook so i can take a break
No... im a big boy and I can serve myself.
but sometimes she does, and sometimes I will serve her... it depends on the circumstances at the time, but normally I dont want help getting the food I want on my plate.My SO doesn't live with me, but normally I'm off Thursday and Friday and he'll come over after work on Thursday and I'll cook dinner and serve him, its the only day I get to treat him to a home cooked meal, so I don't mind doing it for him 😊
If I had one and she spent most of her time home rather than work then yes. Plus, why not do something that any person would appreciate? Can I make my own food? Sure. I do it almost everyday. But it would be wonderful if I could come home with food on the table every once in a while.
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