Do you expect your girlfriend to cook for you?

[victoriaxoxo]

Hypothetically if you don’t have one.

Yes, always.

Yes, but only sometimes.

Maybe on special occasions.

No, but I’ll eat whatever is left.

No, never.

[MTC29]

No. It's nice of she can cook, but it's not vital. I know how to cook. Thanks to COVID, I cook every night (or I eat the leftovers). Here's a tip for you younger guys. Learn how to cook one thing really well, let's say chicken, which is relatively easy, then invite the girl over for to your place for dinner. When she finds out that you cooked the entire meal yourself and it was "just for her", you'll be so far above the other guys she's dated that you'll practically be on a pedestal... unless of course she's been to my place first (I make an amazing pork roast). The pay off for that $8 chicken is huge! Now that she's decided to stay the night with you, be sure to have an individually wrapped toothbrush on hand along with a bar or two of foo-foo soap: make it something with oatmeal- women are nuts for oatmeal soaps (who can know why?).

I've been working this dinner scam for decades. Whether the woman is 20 or 60, the number of guys who've actually prepared a meal for her is so few (if any) that you can't help but to stand out and score.

[Citizenkirk]

Expect her too? The problem was having two exceptional Cooks in a relationship, with the occasional fighting over who gets access to the kitchen. In some relationship scenarios, one partner will concede ownership and authority over the kitchen to the other, oftentimes the woman gets the kitchen. In my last serious relationship, we had to negotiate terms on who would have the right to cook the meals and how often. We both had to concede that everything the two of us cooked was delicious, and about the only thing we ever really fought about was placement and organization of the cooking utensils. We both had the same attitudes toward prepping, storage rotation, and preparation of the food items, but who got that seventh day out of an odd numered week, with dominion over the kitchen on that 7th. day, ended in a stalemate, in which we both grudgingly had to assist each other on that seventh day. The fighting and friction created by that situation, resulted in awesome make up sex afterwards 😁.

[Fabrilia]

If I get married one day and I’m working and my husbands at home, I will expect from him that he will cook dinner. It goes both ways. If I’m home and he’s at work all day then I will do the same.

With that being said - it’s always a nice thing to cook a good meal for them, but it shouldn’t be an expectation.

[electromagnetic]

I can’t cook. I was honest about it getting into my relationship. That hadn’t prevented me from attempting. He cooks but I don’t expect him to cook at the time.
I’ve gotten better and my food is finally edible

[dangerDoge]

Cooking isn't something I expect, but it is something I would appreciate. The word 'expect' suggests to me that cooking would be a requisite for a successful partner, but I don't see it that way personally. I can cook for myself as need be. I don't see why having a girlfriend implies requiring someone to cook for me.

The only time I'd expect to have a meal cooked for me is...
1.) We did something extra long term (e. g. moving in together) and we came to an agreement she would primarily take care of cooking on whatever days. I say primarily, because even if she took up the main cooking duty, there would surely be days she didn't feel well, or was busy doing whatever, and then I'd be up for the responsibility.

2.) She said that she would cook for "___ day." I mean, if she said it, I'm going to believe it. Without coming to any agreement like point 1, I imagine it'd likely be something where we cook for each other on special days (e. g. each others birthdays).

[NyceGuyFinishingLast]

I don't mind if I had a girl that cooked for me but it isn't expected of her. Like if she walked into the kitchen and made herself something I wouldn't expect her to make me anything but wouldn't turn it down. It is not her responsibility to feed me, I am a grown man and can feed myself. I mean I am single now for 4 years and have done perfectly fine cooking and feeding myself.

[FlySwimmer]

I am fine with cooking, if she is willing and wants to cook she can go for it, but I am perfectly happy to cook :) I don’t mind cooking and even if I did mind it and she didn’t want to either I would still cook for her, there is no reason to follow gender roles, it should just be a team effort :)

[stormiigrl]

I think it depends on the person if they love cooking then the kitchen is their thing. But if you both like to cook i think it should be 50/50 like i cook one night you cook the next. My ex use to say the womans place is in the kitchen tables turned he learned the hard way that is not the case amymore. #realitycheck.

[MCheetah]

Yes, but only sometimes. I don't even care if it's order out or something. Just any decent food. I suck at cooking, so we can't BOTH make awful food. At least one of us needs to be good at it, and it's not gonna be me. I don't mind doing the dishes for her though (I like to pre-soak, so she better be cool with that).

[Ammi_goldie806]

Whoever is the 10% I hope y'all find a lady that doesn't know how to cook you should be ashamed of yourself for wanting a woman or your girlfriend to be a slave to you you're really just disgusting and nasty. I said what I said and I don't take it back.

[Djaay]

You don't appreciate a good meal cooked for you?

[Vengeancex97]

Have fun finding a submissive simpy pet

[Ammi_goldie806]

@Djaay I cook for MYSELF the fact you think she should cook for you ALL the time is gross. unless she wants to do it than fine, but she shouldn't have to do it all the time.

[Ammi_goldie806]

@Vengeancex97 have fun burning water

[Vengeancex97]

@Ammi_goldie806 No thanks, I'd find a girlfriend that does it for me! I'm one of those from the co-existing species.

[Ammi_goldie806]

Than your saying she is a bad cook, good job @Vengeancex97

[Djaay]

We both just cook together every meal and enjoy the hell out of it. The same with everything else in the home.

[Ammi_goldie806]

Than why didn't you pick something else @Djaay

[Djaay]

Something else , what?

[imthequeen]

how does cooking food for your partner make you a slave and makes him disgusting and nasty?

[watrewks]

Personally not really. I was always surprised when a girl would enthusiastically cook for me. I’m so used to doing everything by myself and growing up whoever was cooking made enough for all people present so I just accepted that as the norm.


I would expect a girl to pull her weight, but if it makes her happy to cook for me then I’d be more than happy to to have her cook for me lol. I like to cook though and experiment so I would definitely be doing some cooking as well

[Kabluie]

I let a g/f live with me without paying rent, being a nesting partner kind of thing and she saw it as a way to contribute. We are both foodies and got things delivered like hello fresh to make it easier since that's like a half-hour of prep+cooking. There are a mix of nights we cook together, or I'd wash the dishes after kind of thing. That's a better way to look at it as shared responsibility and just figure out what will work between.

[loveslongnails]

We cook for each other, We each have our own preparations that we excel at, so depending on what we want, that determines who does the cooking. Besides that, we prefer to cook and eat at home anyway. It's not only way less expensive, but we can control the food source, the ingredients and we have better wine than when we go to restaurants. It's a win-win all around, every day.

[Browneye57]

Yes, of course. SOMEBODY needs to cook, right?
So, should your boyfriend change the oil in your car? Or wash it?

So now we have to ask, do you have ANY idea how to KEEP a man? Do you know what they need and want to stay loyal and in love with you? Perhaps we're at a learning moment here.

[MannMitAntworten]

I had a girlfriend who reheated leftovers in the microwave once... that’s the only girlfriend who did anything that can remotely be referred to as cooking. So, no, I do not expect any of them too since I came to the realization years ago that women do not actually cook.

[Feelicks]

Depends on the relationship dynamic.

I usually go for submissive types who cook clean and suck dick without have to be told.

That said if she wants to be the big earner and free up my time to cook then cool, I used to work as a chef so I'm down for a role reversal.

[Anonymous]

Well, I do love the lasagna she can cook... but she actually doesn't like to cook. I can and don't mind it... However, I rather not and that is why we have a live-in housekeeper who cooks, does the laundry, keeps our house clean and even changes our sheets
and all that. Problem solved.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

I expect my girlfriend to contribute equally to the relationship. That means that if I work full time and do the laundry and she works part time, she should be cleaning and cooking. The only issue I have with women cooking is that I’ve never been in a relationship where I want the better cook.

[AndyFo]

Nope, if you want to cook than cook if not ill put on my jurassic park apron and make something for both of us. I would hate to think that my ability to cook would go to waste if I had someone to cook for.

[Xoirwinkan]

Yeah, it's so cute when a girl cooks for a guy. Food made for you by a women is so much better "tasting". It just feels good, and you feel loved. I also like to cook, so I would obviously return the favour sometimes, or cook together. Besides, even if she isn't a great cook, she can learn, since I consider it rather useful for when she becomes a mother.

[jerdanro]

I don't expect it, but it is a nice gesture and makes me feel appreciated. I believe women who like to cook can use cooking as a way to show love and be nurturing. Feeding someone is nurturing by definition. My first experience of love was being nursed by my mother. I think that's also why men love breasts so much. They represent love as well as sex.

[V12NI]

It's strange how people make such a big thing of "cooking for her/him". For me it's mixed and we don't care too much. I like cooking so if I have time I prepare meal, if she has time then she prepares and if none of us can prepare anything then we order something.

[angelcolor]

i think by default i would cook for my boyfriend a lot just because i love cooking, but the second he *expects* me to cook for him and makes it a sort of rigid rule, i wouldn't feel comfortable with him.

[Leavesbound]

No but I would hope she would offer to help clean up after I cook for her. I've been a sous chef and am a pretty good cook and in fact prefer my own cooking to that of any woman I've been with.

[NathanDavis]

I don't expect for anyone to have to cook my meals for me since age 14 or so, I was raised to be self-suficient on that aspect, and a few others like laundry, etcétera.

[Avicenna]

I'm a pretty good cook, so she's welcome to cook WITH me. I don't expect her to cook for me. I have yet to date a woman who's a better cook than me.

[johnsmithjs]

HELL NO, I am an artist in the kitchen and I have not met a women yet that can compare to my cooking. My grandmother and aunt knew how to cook and they are probably the only people, other then professional chefs, that I enjoy.

[WesBrewer]

I don't expect her to, but I don't mind it. I'd like it, but if she doesn't know how to cook that's alright, I've been doing it my whole life so I can teach her and then we can do it together.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I like cooking, so no, but I wouldn't mind it either if she was either already a good cook, or would let me, youtube, a cookbook, cooking class, or anyone else teach her stuff, so i guess apreciative when yes but indifferent when no?

[Drumlin2001]

I was self sufficient for years before meeting OH. I can cook for myself and for her. But she like cooking and when she can she is the main cook in our relationship. If's her choice though. I expect nothing

[The_Maphio]

If she wants to. I'm a better cook than she is.
But she still cooks more often than I do, as my job takes a lot of time especially in the evening-night.

[RedSauce]

No, neither do I want her to. She is extremely messy and doesn’t clean up properly at all; if she cooks I have a lot more cleaning to do than if I cook.

[ChrisMaster69]

If she can cook yes, I’m actually very good and love cooking.

it would most likely be a joint affair.

[CrypticViper]

Expect it? Nope. I've been cooking for myself and my daughters for years. Even before my ex left. While, it'd be nice to have a hot meal every now and then from my girlfriend, I don't expect to have one.

[worldscolide]

No, but I do expect her to either know how, or learn, I've been cooking since I was 8, and I think anyone male or female that doesn't have a basic understanding of cooking is both stupid and not worth my time.

[Lliam]

I don't "expect" it, but it's a sweet gesture. It shows that she is eager to put in effort to impress me and make me happy.

[ZackBan]

I wouldn't expect it but I would appreciate it and even cook for her sometime (I am by no mean an avid cook but I enjoy making a meal)

[ShortCircuit]

If she worked significantly fewer hours than me, yes. Otherwise, no--although it would still be appreciated if she did.

[jaybee281]

Definitely, she expects to go make money so yea I see it normal that I expect from her to cook at least

[MyNameJames]

As a person who's a good cook I'd like to cook for someone I like as much as I can. It's not their job to feed me, but if they wanna cook for me they're more than welcome to.

[TheBigGuy9]

I like to cook myself and I do it quite well. The only thing I’d want for a SO is the basics, like eggs, hash browns. I eat those daily.


When it comes to meats, fish, grilled onions, peppers, other vegetables, I prefer to do it.

[Curmudgeon]

I do, but there is a quid pro quo involved, like me taking care of cleanup afterwards, etc.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

I have health issues so my food is very particular. I always do all my own cooking, I don't really trust anyone else to do it for me.

[AdithyaR]

Nah, I'm good at cooking and I enjoy cooking so I don't need anyone to cook for me.
In fact I get annoyed when someone else is in the kitchen while I'm cooking, distracts me.

[CallmeTheKnight]

At this point in my life, no I don't expect it. It will be nice for someone to cook for the cook but a a number of women I came across didn't know how to cook.

[FilmGuy93]

It's a nice surprise when she cooks, but I don't expect that sort thing.

[ToastyOats]

Cooking is a fundamental part of life. Someone who dosen't or won't cook, at least try, is a huge turnoff.

[HawkPerception]

We would take turns ideally. Cooking is an essential skill. Not only the girl should know how.

[GirlyGal20]

I personally like taking turns doing it, it's a nice thing to cook for your boyfriend.

[Adam1978]

If we share food habits, yes she should cook or she has no right to complain and eat what is served.

[ohshee]

I love to cook so if I can't for some reason then it's either that or going out lol

[Helpmeplease10106]

Not I expect us to cook fifty fifty were both equal no ones better than the other I hate how girls aren't viewed as equal

[dreamstar72]

I rather cook for my wife, but she sometimes does the breakfast cooking. No big deal to me if she doesn’t do the cooking

[Phoenix98]

While it would be nice, no I would not expect her to cook for me she wouldn't be a slave after all and I can cook my own meals.

[Kaneki05]

No i would never expect such things. If she want's to or not either way it perfectly good to me.

[Iron_Man]

Absolutely I’m the one who’s taking care of everything pretty much if she can’t even cook dinner and can’t help me with bills then why is she my girlfriend?

[Iron_Man]

And I don’t want to hear about the sex because she will get it to you right back

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

I voted B coz a boyfriend and girlfriend can each cook for one another

[slatyb]

She doesn’t have to cook. i can cook. She can clean up.

[Agape93]

No. She can cook when or if she wants to. If she won’t, I will.

[hellacray]

Yes, one of my requirements is that she's good at cooking.

If she sucks or can't cook I would not date her.

[snackthatsmilesback]

We can both cook, and it's usually easier to cook together than alone tbh.

[exitseven]

She did when we were at her place. When we got married she does most of the cooking.

[deeks1121]

I'm a grown adult and have been independently looking after myself for many years. If my partner decides to cook for me I am grateful

[jahaims]

I don't expect anyone to do anything for me unless I am paying for a service or made some other agreement.