My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. In the beginning, everything was great. Hed come over every other day, we'd take turns cooking, he would try to bond with my son (he's not my sons dad), and everything was great. Everything reciprocated. Nowadays, I just feel like it's not the same.. whenever I want to communicate something that bothers me that he's doing, he doesn't take my words seriously. He also stopped doing the little things he used to do, doesn't see me much anymore, or contacts me. He is always half stoned too amd goes to bed at 8 pm. He also doesn't ask my 8 year old son and I to come to his place anymore. I thought maybe I should switch things up and maybe build on our relationship.. maybe it was a lot for him to have a kid around and maybe we were losing our spark. I suggested maybe every weekend or so, that him and I hire a sitter for a couple hours so we can get alone time and strengthen the spark. That alone time wouldn't even have to be spending a dime. He hasn't taken me out in a month. I did get a night free one time, and I got excited hoping it'd be fun. He cringed when I said we should go out somewhere close and low key vs cooking at home since we were both tired. That date was dull. After that next time he came over, I ordered take out and got him a beer to make him happy. It semi worked. He doesn't hold me at night or put his arm around me. It makes me feel alone. Also, I 100% understand that people aren't texters. Once in a blue moon, if I do message him something that needs an answer, he never replies because he "doesn't text". I get that but it takes 10 damn seconds. We took a small break then he called me. I told him how I felt.. that I was alone. For a night, things were great! We got back together and he said he loved me. Then after that, he hasn't contacted me in 3 days. I didn't blow him up.. All I did was call him once. Nothing. I feel like I'm putting more work into this. He's 5 years older.
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I Feel Lonely In My Relationship. Should I Try Harder or Leave?
