Long Distance Relationship advice?

kgj_03

I was in a supposedly LDR with a woman 580miles away. She made a great effort to see me once or twice in a month for over a year. Things were great for 1.5yrs (even after her divorce of 13yrs earlier this year). But she claims she began to feel lonely in June. After drinking, an opportunity with one of her neighbors rose & she went for it. Off and on, along with arguments between them, they were friends with benefits til Sept (when I got enough PTO to go visit her). I only found all this out, when her best friend husband told me all of this online anonymously one night. Next day, she finally admitted to it (crying & apologizing x 15). I feel sad, embarrassed, betrayed, deceived, insecure (that I wasn't enough) and like I can't trust her anymore. She decided she wanted to be alone for now to work on herself, on how to be alone, single, not have to always want to be touched which leads to "bad decisions".

We both agreed to working on, rebuilding, strengthening our friendship, along with building trust again. BUT she is still staying friends only (kids play together, passing in hallways saying hi, possibly hanging out somewhere if invited... etc) with that neighbor she was friends with benefits before.

I really like/love her & I'm willing to work on communication, trust & things with her, along with strengthening our friendship to start. My question is can I trust her again? What is my next step? Do you think she is lying again about wanting to work on herself and trying to be alone? Any questions I should ask her? I need advice and opinions.

Long Distance Relationship advice?
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