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I meet a guy a few years ago. We were neighbors. He started washing my car every week. I tried to pay him and he wouldn't take the money. I then found out he was living with his girlfriend at the time. Then they moved out. Then I hear from him a few months later telling me he has crush and wants to take me out and that him and the girl he was dating broke up. But then he kept making excuses when it came time to hang out. Then when questioned I found out that he decided to go back to the same girl he was living with. Now in 2023 we happened to run into each other and reconnect and he still saying he still wants to hang out and that he knows he made a mistake before and that he and the girl ended up broking up shortly after that. However it's been almost a month since we've been in communication and he is still making plans only to cancel or take a raincheck. He asked me to be his valentines and then said oh well I have to bring you the gift I got you early cause I'm working on Valentines day. But on valentines day morning told me he would be able to come see me. Then at the last minute says he cannot get off work and has to stay late and can we go on a date this coming weekend. He is consistently making plans and then canceling or asking for a raincheck. We have yet to actually go on a date. Am I just being paranoid in thinking maybe he is still involved with someone. Am I just wasting my time thinking this guy is going to ever step up? Or does he just want to hook up and potentially ghost me afterwards?

boyfriend and I have been together 8 years. I have always gotten him a gift for Valentine’s Day, or made something requiring time and effort if I couldn’t afford it. Earlier in the week, boyfriend said he didn’t know what to get me after he noticed I had liked some gifts other people had gotten on Twitter (just thought it was nice, wasn’t trying to make a point)

Fast forward a few days. We’re in a shop and they have a big studio ghibli plush for $45. I brought him to the side away from anyone who might hear and asked if he wanted to buy the plush for my valentine. I planned to get it regardless of his answer. He agreed but his attitude changed. We got into the car, he grilled me for “putting him on the spot” and even said he thought we were past “materialism.” I was taken aback as I never ask for money/gifts and only asked because he expressed worry over it, and I led him away from people as to NOT put him on the spot. He also said I don’t know if he even has that much money (I know he has roughly $60,000, he just doesn’t keep it all directly in his checking account, he’ll withdraw however much he needs at the time and that’s what he’s referring to). However, he’s spent more than that on me even before he had money. We were both broke high schoolers when we got together, so I obviously didn’t get with him for that. He also spends more than that on himself on a regular basis, so I figured it was something he could easily afford.

Almost the day after this, he buys a $300 watch for himself. I feel worthless and unimportant. I couldn’t care less about money. I just want to feel like I matter and am thought about. I ended up having to work on Valentine’s and came home with his favorite beers (which he didn’t drink a single one) and spent 6 hours making pineapple upside down cupcakes and he still pouted that I didn’t buy him anything when I have less than $100 to my name.

Am I the asshole for being upset at him or for asking about the plush? Or is he? Thanks in advance!