Why do I keep myself in question, though I made the right decision for my own sake?

[Anonymous]

There was this guy that I met. Him and I had the smallest bits of our life in common. Whatever we had together, our feelings never went further. I'm an idiot who has learned to JUST LISTEN next time. This guy says how much he liked me, yet didn't want a relationship. He ended up ghosting me because I was in the wrong state of mind. Dealing with a lot. The miscommunication we had, it made him run the other direction.
Throughout time, this guy comes back to me. Saying how the holidays made him think about us a lot. How good our chemistry was. Explaining how I'm this amazing person. That it hurt him that he hurt me. For some damn reason, I gave this guy a chance. Because I'm again, an idiot for giving this guy a second chance. He meets up with me in person.
It was such a nerve-wrecking move. Nothing happened outside my apartment. I mean, we cuddled and watched movies a LOT. Only got food ONCE. It was just sex, sex, sex. Once we had sex, it was always sex. He made the effort and got me a gift from Valentine's Day.. I eventually threw the gift away. Tossed it in the air to the garbage from outdoors. It shattered, and I felt relief. He did make time to see me, about once a week. Yet beforehand, I wasn't getting text messages from him within' 10 hours. I was seeing him twice a month before he ghosted me. This and that. Him ghosting me was like his reality check of losing me.

I ended up cutting the limit. He didn't text me that he made it home. This sounds petty, but this was my second time of telling him. Apologized the first time. I heard nothing after one whole day. He did it again, and I cut the limit. Telling him I was done throwing the effort with us. It isn't just me. That I can't do everything one sided.

[Paulalove98]

Don't be hard on yourself. The feelings were mutual when you guys hooked up and in that moment you wanted the intimacy like him but there's a possiblity w relationship may not be on his plate and he only wanted the sex like majority of guys these days but those kind of guys will tell us what we wanna hear so tjey can get in our pants. I've been in your shoes with 2 of those sort of guys similar to what you're describing and the first guy actually almost turned into a stalker, yup. It was a disturbing situation and a long story lol. But if he's not making effort or showing interest he was only thinking of fun with you. I hope you find a guy who's better and shows more effort. Im making friendships with guys and taking it one day at a time before getting my hopes up because one sided feelings suck😞

[Paulalove98]

A relationship* ignore the w. Autocorrect.

[FilmGuy93]

You're struggling because you were invested in the idea of him instead of the person he really is. I've had the same problem with a number of women through out my life. I have this tendency of going for aloof and distant women.

I've started to wonder if I percieve the women as aloof but interested, when they are really just uninterested instead. I have this really deep fear of coming across like I can't take a hint and force myself on people.

[RealMarek]

Good riddance to that guy. Try to learn from this. Giving sex too easily early in a relationship is not a great strategy for finding a man who will love you and be committed to you. It is a very random approach and many men are opportunistic and in it just for the sex.

[MatteBlaxk]

It's okay, people come and go all the time. But at least you learned something from this relationship. And don't blame yourself cause you didn't know any better. Sometimes our feelings gets the best of us and it fucks with our head. Just try not to give in when he texts you back. Block delete or whatever.

[Shamalien]

If you fuck a guy who doesn’t take you on dates and doesn’t put in any effort then you don’t have any right to expect anything more than what you settled for. You cannot raise your expectations after sex, why do women think they can do this

[Asker]

You're not wrong.. Why do women do this, or just generally people? I mean, this person who I just mentioned has said things to me that left me glued. Saying he had feelings for me, while I did too. He basically lied to me, and I was blinded.

[Shamalien]

Well let’s stick with women, because men have different standards to meet when dating. It’s not our job to withhold sex, it’s our job to shit test the woman to see how easily she gives it up.

Women do this because they weren’t raised right. Women that were raised right don’t fall into this. Basically, your dad or mom has to teach you how to be a respectable woman. Social media and sex ed don’t help the situation because it pretends like men and women are equal. If women act like men in the dating world they will be ran through by boatloads of men and just be more and more hollowed out until they haven’t a heart left to give.

Gotta keep your legs shut and your head on a swivel. Look for a guy that isn’t trying to fuck right away. When I meet a girl, I won’t even consider fucking her until I trust her fully. Minimum 3 months, bare absolute minimum and ideally 6 months. I’m a sensitive guy though, most men will take it when they can get it and do anything for it.

Self control is the name of the game here. Many men may not like this, many girls will make fun of you for not having enough sex, but in the end, you win. Just gotta have realistic standards in terms of looks and high standards in terms of morals

[spartan55]

I don't know what you expected when you gave him sex for free. You can almost never have any sort of normal relationship once that happens.

[jcampbell115]

Oh look, another guy that just ends up in sex

[Asker]

Alright. Honestly, I was looking for an appropriate answer rather than coming off rubish at me.

[jcampbell115]

Your questions are literally the exact same every time

[Asker]

Then DON'T respond. Lmfao!! Get out of here