Should I feel guilty about myself?

[Anonymous]

I considered him as my friend. He considered me as his girlfriend. But he never said me that he loves me. But expected me to understand it. And he expected me to be loyal with him. He felt I broke his rules by having other guys as my friends. He broke off the friendship with me and blocked me. I contacted him and asked him why he broke off the friendship with me. And he said me that I broke his rules by having other guys as my friends when he didn't even propose me. Should I feel guilty about myself for breaking his rules and his heart when he did not even say that he loves me and came to conclusions on his own terms that I don't love him?

[quaranta]

You have no responsibilities here.
You couldn't know about all of that, and nobody is requested to read other's mind to take care of their own self without even expecting them to say a word about that. It's like stepping over their boundary, they know what they want and it's their role to express it. If they expect you to enter their boundaries like that, it means they expect a kind of symbiosis where you become part of their world, where you become the caregiver of anything they could think about, and this is generally toxic.
Further, you said you have other friends, not boyfriends. So his demands are out of any realistic scenario. But in general he doesn't live in a realistic scenario at all: he built up all the relationship in his own head and even built expectations on that, without your participation in building any of those perspectives but still expecting you to fulfill that. This is not possible, because it started and ended in his own head only and you can't be requested to suddenly take part in that in the way he built the story. You are yourself and his world is his world. He just had to connect his world to the reality by telling you on time, about his love, preventing to live in his imaginary fantasies.
He has anyway all the rights to break with you because this looks like the only way (distance) to get over all the fantasies he built up and recover from the suffering he is probably living, so I would suggest to let him process his pain with the timings he needs.

Now, at the end of your question you say he "came to the conclusion" you don't love him. Do you? Did he give him an actual chance? If so, be VERY careful because finally you had the chance to see how he is for real during a conflict and the way he perceives boundaries is dangerous, he looks like the passive aggressive type with no communication skills that will try to guilt trap you and put responsibilities on you that are instead his. So beware that if you decide to date him, this is most likely the person you are getting (and won't change anytime soon).

[Asker]

Thanks for your clear explanation. Yes, I agree with this

[slatyb]

No, you should not feel guilty. He's an ass. You haven't lost anything of value.