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Hey you all, Just have a quick question to get off my mind. My family going through tough times and I mostly dont care but feel guilty. However growing with my family from 2008- 2022 was like hell in my eyes.
father - in jail, divorced, strict and bit abusive.
oldest sister - never talked much and she's busy. always into with her husband. owes me money but has good paying job and our convo be about how her man doing her wrong.
older sister - never talked much but always into with her husband. treat her kids wrong, argues with her man over nothing, everytime i visit.
older sister - ghetto, attitude, hangs with wrong crowd. her man hates her. user, ain't got nothing for her. she has 0 to do with you.
older brother - bully, temper problem, dismisses how i feel when he disrespects me.
younger sister - junky, has 5 kids, try to give her roof but treated kids bad, couldnt get no sleep esp when i had work due to kids crying for what ever reason (mostly yelling / hitting them due to them misbehaving) , i did the cooking and cleaning while she pop babies. etc
2022 - they all come to me for advice, want to live with me (want to get a peace of mind) to get over there husband or boyfried trouble, (All 4 of my sisters have no where to stay ), dad now begs for my attention and misses me (still in jail), brother is an asshole that lives with my mom. (he treat me like shit and when i speak up about it, its like im the villian ) but I try to keep the peace between us. (i secretly hate him with a passion) and more stuff. dealing with this from 2008- 2022
I feel that i endured there bullshit for so long that i dont want to really be around them. feel bad they have nowhere to stay but i wasn't a factor in there lives until there problem came up. should feel bad for distancing myself from them and not giving them a roof over my sisters head.
i live alone and making good living, feel happier not being around them.
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Sounds like distancing yourselves would be gor the best. Their all adults an none are you're responsibility.
You'll get a lot of "you only get 1 family" or "families should stick together no matter what" But if they've done nothing but cause and stress on you then you shouldn't feel guilty about wanting to be alone for awhile
And even if you DO want to stay to help them. If you're not mentally ok yourself then you need ti. r alone to heal and take care of yourself and your physical and mental health.
Exactly, thanks a lot! glad its not just me that feel that way. your blessing. Happy new years!
Better to move on. You probably need professional help but yeah I get it
you are totally right, for sure. I might seek the professonal help, so far im coping in manner of listening music, working (side job), and working on my carrer (game developer, film directing etc) and let my family do wha they do and leave me out of it.
That’s what you gotta do sometimes. You can love your family. But if they hurt you. Best to limit contact
Even when you have to interact with them. You can be civil and have boundaries
Don't help them.