Should I tell my boyfriend that his brother kissed me (and a little more)?

[Anonymous]

A long long time ago my boyfriends brother kissed me and kind of felt me up. This was way back in the confusing stages of me and my boyfriends relationship when we werent official and I didn't know what we were yet, so both of us were keeping things private and only between us. Thats why many people, including his brother, didn't know about us. His brother confessed and started basically trying to have sex with me and at that time I was still a virgin, I hadn't ever been touched. And the shock of being felt up was very nerve wracking for me so I know it seems like I let it get to that point, but it was all moving very fast and once he put his hands on me I froze up and my legs turned to jelly, my voice got caught in my throat and I panicked for a few seconds. And for those few seconds I wasn't objecting because I was just so surprised that it was happening. It was just enough time for too much shit to happen so even though I finally pushed him off and told him that me and his brother were together (and he actually was guilty) I didn't tell my boyfriend. Because for 1, at the time since we werent official I thought he wouldn't care or would blame me rather than his brother and 2, him and his brother had the best relationship ever they were basically best friends. I was just his new girlfriend (at the time) and I didn't want to mess up there relationship because of a misunderstanding. So I literally went 8 months now without telling him. And sometimes I forget it even happened but when I remember it, I just feel bad. Because i feel like the longer I wait to tell him, the more unnecessary pain it will inflict. And it might sound a little selfish but at this point I keep it a secret to protect his feelings. What good would telling him do? Yeah, he might understand and be grateful that I let him know, but after waiting so long I dont think he would take it well because I seem guilty even though Im innocent... what do you all think I should do?

[antho987]

If you explain the context and how his brother didn't know like you did he can understand. But we don't know your boyfriend so my opinion is : it depends on how cool and open-minded your boyfriend is... Good luck (ps: I would tell, in fact it happened to me too and at the end I spent 7years with the sister and she is the love of my life I would never forget. The other one cheated on me so it made things easier...)

[Anonymous]

That is a messed up situation.
That is one of the reasons why people should just assume they are exclusive by the third date.
Don't tell though. You will just hurt him, make him not trust you (for waiting so long to say anything it does make you seem guilty) and mess up his relationship with his brother.
His brother didn't know you two were together, so it wasn't on purpose.

[Morrioghan]

I would say that you should not create tension between the brothers, or him and you. If it didn't meant anything for you, just let it go.

[8Rola8]

Omg! I think if your boyfriend reads this paragraph and understand u, he'll definitely be on your side

[zhb94]

you don't need to tell him anything it happend in the past but of you're feeling guilty use the right time to tell him he became angry at first but then you have to make him calm...
but i personally recommend you don't him because of this he will never forgive his brother and you too and you can lose him

[Zebadee88]

Either move on now or trust yourself to never tell him.
The pain will probably be so much that you will lose him or destroy his family relationships. You want that on your conscience?

[OhhSpuddles]

I would wanna know so I'd stop wasting my time with you after not telling the truth

[rocsteady12]

girl u better take that to your grave. what dude in his right mind would ever want to hear about his girl and brother making out

[Kurodo]

Shove that skeleton deep into the closet and never speak of it unless its forced out.

[NoLivesMatter]

Don't tell him.

What he doesn't know can't hurt him.

[DA_VIEWZ]

Yes... yes you should. Also, seek therapy with your boyfriend if you want to continue on with the relationship.

[HappyDominant17]

mhmm.. if just move on, no point making him angry.

[Nephilim000]

how has the brother treated you since

[Browneye57]

TLDR. But to answer your question, NO.

[blondfrog]

Uh yeah you should def tell.

[Danny1108]

why dont you igonre him when he kisses you?

[Nujabes123]

YES TELL HIM ASAP

[Anonymous]

ain't no one give a fuck about your internet drama

[LastNightmare]

baby, don't say it

[naraku]

No need to tell him.

[ToruMatsuda]

My brother would die

[eagle1951]

I'd let it go