I feel guilty about lying about my age, but I’m afraid of losing everything if I confess - what should I do?

[Army5193]

For fear of my own safety and for fear of being judged due to my young age (in reality I’m about 6 years younger), I told a man I met online I was 3 years older than I am, and in my senior year of college. But it’s become apparent that we’ve both developed major feelings for each other, and deep down, I know that if I even want to keep our friendship much less be romantically involved, I would have to come clean with him about my age and who I really am. But I’m afraid of losing him - I have no idea how he’ll react when I tell him, and most of all, I don’t want to lose the man who I’ve told so much of myself to. He’s always been truthful with me, and done nothing but accept me for who I am, and barring this age and schooling issue, I’ve never even thought about lying to him; I’m just really scared that if by telling him that I wasn’t truthful with him from the very start, I’m worried he’d never look at me or trust me the same way again.

If you have any advice on what I should do and what I need to say to him, I would greatly appreciate it - I’ve been losing a lot of sleep recently thinking about this. Thank you all so much.

[bklynbadboy1]

I've been through something like this before but you have to tell him and the reason why you have to tell him is because it's going to be worst if he finds out on its own it's always better coming from you. It happened to me before and come to find out she was okay with it it bothers her a little bit at first but it ended up working out really well so tell him you might be surprised by his reaction it might not be what you think it is and remember what I said it's always going to be better coming from you than him finding out on his own so tell him and if he really loves you the way he says he does he'll get over it

[xctmnt]

You postsponed the judgement :)

You just have to accept that dating involves the risk of rejection. It sucks, but those are the rules if you want to play.

I doubt he'll reject you for being younger - he may reject you for your dishonesty.

You just have to find out. Just take responsibility for it and share your feelings around it. Hopefully, he will be sympathetic.

Good luck!

[blubblubblub]

The earlier you do it, the easier it'll be. And you have to do it eventually.

[blubblubblub]

How old is he?

[BOUNTYGUY9]

you are right how old is he that can get a guy in lots of trouble

[Anonymous]

Are you over the age of majority in your duristiction (quoted age is 17)? If not, then things are a little more complicated, I'll let others handle that case.
If yes, then be honest, and explain why you made the choices you made. It's probably better to do this sooner than later.

[damoM]

If he loves you then he will just accept it and move on. But don't be surprised if the relationship dynamics change e. g no sexual stuff because technically he could go to jail for being sexual with a minor

[jaidee]

What if he lied to you and he's actually 5 years older than you think?
Kidding aside, you have to come clean. Do it face to face! That's how you'll have the best chances to preserve your relationship.

[Meh18]

True friends accept each other no matter what. The sooner you tell him the better you'll sleep

[BOUNTYGUY9]

don t tell lies l tell my true age every time l have nothing to hide l am an honest guy at all times l do look younger

[ba353]

So this will test your love each other

[vsbw14]

Whats u r age?