Should I lose weight?

[vinca]

Hi, so I never thought I was fat. I'm 5'7",21yrs old and I weigh 120lbs. I wear XS(extra small) or size 1 or 2,depending on the brands. I always thought I looked good,happy with my body,not fat at all. My boyfriend I've been seeing for a couple of months,he sometimes grabs my stomach and says I need to eat less,jokingly but it hurts because he almost says it every time we snuggle and I just don't feel good about myself. I have a small butt, which he says is cute because he likes small butts but the other day we were outside and he saw this girl with a small butt which he complimented and told me I need to do butt crunches to get a supermodel tight butt. It made me feel horrible but I didn't tell him that. Now I absolutely hate myself every time I look in the mirror. I feel ugly. I skip meals and whenever hunger gets too much and I eat I feel guilty and like a fat cow. I feel like I disappoint him.

Am I really fat? How much weight should I lose? Would really appreciate any answers.

[CatherineTheSoSo]

What an asshole! Dump that mofo now please. No, you're not fat. Hon you're already an XS, what size will you be wearing when you're thinner?!

I don't think he means for you to lose more /weight/, I think he wants you to tone up (which is different) but even /then/ he has no right to make you feel like sh*t and these are HUGE warning signs.

Just think about it, what's more important? Your health, ability to have children, your vitality and beauty or having a boyfriend who has no qualms about turning you into an anorexic chick with body issues just for his own morbid sexual satisfaction that has nothing to do with you?

We already have to battle society's standards in public, I don't think you need to fight that fight in the bedroom as well. Dump him.

[Militarytifa]

Well god created us, we are who we are, you should be proud of what you look like, The next time you boyfriend says something along those lines just say "there's more of me to love" and just simply tell him your happy with the way you look and if doesn't like it then maybe consider he isn't the right one for you. He should love you for who you are, not what you look like. and he hast to say he loves you from the bottom of his heart. but if he fails. then do what you feel is right, don't be afraid to shout out your opinion!. :D

[ImNotJohnDoe]

Yeah he sounds like a DB no offense. I think you should either tell him it bothers you or leave him because you aren't fat and even if you were he should accept you for who you are and he should stop worrying about others and start worrying about himself

[vinca]

Thank you for that.

[Prof_Don]

Tell him that those comment bother u. If, over time, he is unreceptive of that, imo that's psychological abuse. Then you should drop him.

[AuburnBeauty]

OMG, I'm your weight and I'm only 5'4", and I KNOW I'm not fat! You need to DUMP HIM. Seriously. WHAT. AN. ASS.

[vinca]

I don't think I'm fat either. I'm just so down because of all this.

[AuburnBeauty]

Don't let an asshole like that get you down. If he has no qualms with disrespecting you and creating false insecurities like that, who knows how else he might treat you in the future. He's obviously manipulating you and causing you to be insecure, most likely because he's insecure about himself. Don't let him do that to you. He doesn't deserve you.

[cluelesscurious]

Wow...

If it makes you feel better, I am 5 foot 3 and close to 120 pounds, and I have a bit of a chubby tummy but I'm mostly not fat, so if you're that weight and much taller you must be super skinny. you do NOT need to lose weight and please eat without feeling guilty at all.

even if he's joking it's a sensitive thing to joke about. tell him, maybe he didn't think he was being mean and he'll fix it? I really HOPE he's joking or that's just horrible...

[kimmiec333]

ok that's just sick, your not fat at all! if you think you are...then holy crap! Size 0 isn't even healthy, and your a 1/2 and want to be smaller? no way, if anything you could use a bit more weight. Your not fat!

[Gee17]

Im kinda going through the same thing. I'm 5'4" and almost the same weight, and I'm kinda chubby. My boyfriend said I gained weight, but I never noticed it and neither has anyone else. It bugs me whenever he drops comments here and there about my weight. It truly hurts. My advice is cofront him about it unless you think there's no use and you're sure he'd still call you "fat". Just dump him. He's not worth it and what kind of loving boyfriend would call their girlfriend fat?

[morngunt]

If anything I would say you need to gain weight because you are definitely not fat. I'm 5'6" and I weigh 140-I'm not fat