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My ex and I went through a lot of fights. Regardless, we managed to make it work because of our strong emotions. Just before our breakup, it reached a point to where he was calling me names and bringing up my family, basically no respect left on his part & coming at me for little things like me saying “thanks” instead of “thank you.” I blew up on him eventually & mentally checked out. 1 day we got into a fight and he said he’d block me (something he does when he’s mad). I then accepted some requests from guys- i was really mad-on social media (didn’t message them and deleted them later. He found out and hell broke and also found platonic msgs between a male friend I’ve known for 5 years. Those msgs included funny memes. I stopped being friends w/ this guy for him. He asked to check my phone, I didn’t agree because he should trust me & wouldn’t want him to think it’s ok to check my phone whenever he feels the need in the future. We ended up breaking up. We kinda kept in touch though to reconcile. Weeks turned into months leading up to us meeting in person. As we were chatting, he told me his expectations which included he checks my phone, I agreed. Then he asks to see my male followers to ask how I know them. I told him some are friends (since HS) and he didn’t like that. He said he doesn’t like his girlfriend to have male friends & I should take off whoever he doesn’t like. I had a reaction and didn’t let him check my phone so ofc he had major issues. We never got back together but now we’re surfacing the relationship again he told me of the same expectations. I’m really conflicted and don’t know if getting back with given expectations are normal or not. Is getting back a good idea?

My family called her cold hearted and selfish woman that didn’t give a rats ass about me for a decade. She abandoned be when I was 7 in a half and left my dad to raise me alone. My late dad even called my mom a bitch right in front of me and didn’t care. He said I’m old enough and he can say those words around me since I’m an adult. I had just turned 18 at the time. My best friends called my mother a selfish, cold blooded bitch for abandoning my dad and why am I grieving over a woman that didn’t want me. She didn’t deserve empathy.
I screamed at them but they told me it was the truth and I refused to accept it. My mom didn’t just leave. She wrote us letters and sent us post cards. She responded to me once in a while and never thanked me for the Mother’s Day of birthday gifts I sent her and people told me to stop sending them and she doesn’t deserve them. My dad told me to stop calling my mother a good mom and faking having a loving relationship when she is garbage. No offense but it’s the truth.
My late dad had no filter and he was BLUNT.