Did I have the right to be upset at my family that insulted my late mother?

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

My family called her cold hearted and selfish woman that didn’t give a rats ass about me for a decade. She abandoned be when I was 7 in a half and left my dad to raise me alone. My late dad even called my mom a bitch right in front of me and didn’t care. He said I’m old enough and he can say those words around me since I’m an adult. I had just turned 18 at the time. My best friends called my mother a selfish, cold blooded bitch for abandoning my dad and why am I grieving over a woman that didn’t want me. She didn’t deserve empathy.
I screamed at them but they told me it was the truth and I refused to accept it. My mom didn’t just leave. She wrote us letters and sent us post cards. She responded to me once in a while and never thanked me for the Mother’s Day of birthday gifts I sent her and people told me to stop sending them and she doesn’t deserve them. My dad told me to stop calling my mother a good mom and faking having a loving relationship when she is garbage. No offense but it’s the truth.
My late dad had no filter and he was BLUNT.

Hell yeah you did.

No your mother was a cold hearted person

Maybe

Who cares

[DaisyM23]

she sounded like a terrible mother and people can have their own opinion of her just like you can have your own opinion of her, people grieve in different ways

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

True but they didn’t have to insult my mother and say all those brutal comments about her.

[DaisyM23]

yeah i know i think since it upsets you they shouldn't say stuff like that to your face but you also need to accept that your mum was far from perfect

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that shows a big lack of respect.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Right? Thank you! Someone understands! My family insulted and lacks sympathy for her. I know she was a lousy mother but she was my mother and nobody has the right to disrespect her in front of my face and my dad was wrong to call her a bitch and a cunt in front of me. That’s so rude. My family is kind but they can be so rude sometimes.