Help, im bad at comforting my boyfriend when he’s sad/upset about something?

[Anonymous]

Ok I honestly do not know how to. Whats worse is we just started being an ldr couple, which means its harder for me to be there for him when he needs me.

Just yesterday he was upset about a family problem. He was also really sad about it. He told me he really needs my hug. What i did was call him and we just talked and laughed a little about things. He said i made him feel better.

Just today he’s sad about the same thing. I couldnt give him a call because i wasn't at home. We talked about it via text messages, and im pretty sure i wasn't helping him feel better at all. I tried to say the right thing to make him feel better, but the thing is I DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY. If i was there with him physically it would be so much easier to comfort him. Im really bad with words. I just feel bad and stupid because i can't even be there for.. and i dont even know how to be there for him. Now he’s asleep, he went to bed feeling sad and i let it happen.

[sweet_casanova]

Until and unless he himself ask for your advice, dont try to help him with the problem.
Either talk to him about something else and make him forget the problem for the time he talks to you or appreciate snd encourage him that he can solve this problem like he have always done in his life.

[Asker]

Which one is the better thing to do?

[sweet_casanova]

Personally I'd prefer my girl supporting and encouraging me but not for too long. Shift to other topic after some time and share your happiness with him. Thats important.