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I have an older brother (23) and I know my bestie from school always crushed on him, but I made it clear that he is not an option and he has a girlfriend. I ended up finding out that she had been skipping class and they had been screwing in my bedroom while I was at school for like two weeks before I caught them came home and caught them. I was so angry I never talked to her since (like almost a bit over a year now). I'm angry that my brother would even do it behind his gfs back, but way more angry and disgusted that my bff chose to tease and lure him into all this. I don't even think she's actually sorry for doing it and says it's not my place to have an opinion because it's controlling. I don't even know anymore.

In April, we chatted about the end of school stuff he has going on and his career. When I start asking him about it, he says it's hard to explain on text but can explain it better in person. I figured that was his way of trying to set something up. So I replied with, "Oh. Haha. I see. So when do I get to see you in person so you can explain it?" and he says, "Haha. After Easter break I can fit something in."

The next day, people knew about it as a rumor had spread. One of his "friends" pulled me to the side and wanted a "girl chat."

The gist of what she told me:

- He can be a hit or miss. Meaning that he might be a good guy, he might not be.

- That he basically cheated on his girlfriend while she was in New York, but he didn't really do anything either so he technically didn't cheat (her words, not mine).

- Sophomore year, he talked to her for a month, then ghosted her. Then he was taking to someone last December and ghosted her too.

- She said he seems like he's grown up since then, she just wanted to give me a heads up that he's probably in his "player stage."

- She also said that his roommate and best friend are players. I've had several classes with his roommate and he's the sweetest guy. As for his friend, I'll give her that one, he can be trouble.

I wanted to tell him and ask him about it, but there was never a good time as he didn't ask to hang out after she spoke to me. Now, he doesn't reach out first, but if I do he does respond. This past week, we talked for four days straight and I figured that maybe I should say something to him. But yesterday, his friend posted a photo that shows her, him and a couple other people (the people she told me are trouble) at a show. My crush and her were pretty far from each other, but they still obviously hang out and talk.

Is it too late for me to say something to him? I don't want to look like a drama queen.

When I saw him my heart skipped a beat, but trying to play it cool I approached the relationship with only friendship in mind. He ended up being kind and funny. He would stare at me from across the room, leave his group of friends just to talk with me and the TEASING? Well time goes by and I don't see him at my shift. I decided to try and look for his IG. When I clicked on his profile I saw a whole highlight dedicated to his GIRLFRIEND. I was so shocked. I tried my best to get over my feelings. But after a week I had to get some answers, so I texted him on Snap. I told him how I thought my feelings were mutual but I'm aware of his girlfriend, I made sure to mention that I thought she was pretty and how I think they should stay together. He left me on "seen". Even worse? He didn't add me back as a friend !

So a few weeks pass and I see him in the CITY with his GIRLFRIEND and he nods his head to my sister and I (my sister knows nothing about this). I just stood there and said "hi". Next day I see him at WORK? We had a few shallow interactions, but I guess I'm just too real to ignore the fat elephant in the room so I was pissed and ended up flirting with his friend in front of him. After this he wouldn't look at me at all lol. The next shift I saw him, I ended up knocking over his coffee. I wanted the ground to swallow me whole. I decided that I would re-make the coffee and when I gave it to him he smiled and said "thanks I appreciate that". I didn't even reply I just wheezed and left. When the day was over I was walking home with my sis and he drove past with his friends, he started pulling faces. And we just stared at each other. It felt nice, but at the back of my mind I was thinking of his girlfriend. Recently it was his bday, I say happy birthday on Snap again. He replies with "thanks that means a lot" and I reply with the "ok" hand emoji. He STILL didn't add me back. Why won't he add me back on Snapchat?

Advice is appreciated!