Best Friend Slept With My Brother! Should I Get Over It & Forgive Her?

[shyonehere]

I have an older brother (23) and I know my bestie from school always crushed on him, but I made it clear that he is not an option and he has a girlfriend. I ended up finding out that she had been skipping class and they had been screwing in my bedroom while I was at school for like two weeks before I caught them came home and caught them. I was so angry I never talked to her since (like almost a bit over a year now). I'm angry that my brother would even do it behind his gfs back, but way more angry and disgusted that my bff chose to tease and lure him into all this. I don't even think she's actually sorry for doing it and says it's not my place to have an opinion because it's controlling. I don't even know anymore.

NOPE... She's Done For Good!

She crossed the line, but it's not my place

I need to forgive her and apologize

[SnowedIn]

I'd forgive her. Yes, what she did was sort of shitty. Yes, he shouldn't have cheated. But none of that is why she was your bestie to begin with. You don't have to like what she did or be happy with their actions or be thrilled with your brother's choices. But don't throw away a friend over this.

I have two additional thoughts. One is that I'm not sure your brother was yours to tell someone that he wasn't an option -- you probably had good intentions but it sounds controlling. The other is that the thing I'd be most upset about? That they were screwing in your room. That to me is the biggest offense in this whole story.

Anyway, keep your friend. Sex with your brother isn't worth losing a friend.

[YourFavoriteFriend]

Nah, I wouldn't forget her. If your brother was single then, I don't find why having a problem with them dating but in this case, she helped a cheater so I would not forget her and tbh, you should normally also not talk to your brother but that's complicated and you didn't asked about that but I'm just wanting to point out that the cheating part is the problem.

[StonerChick427]

Heyy girly, I’ve been in your shoes, and honestly I was mad at first to, but then I got thinking on it and decided it was stupid of me because if she had a brother and somehow we just connected then I would hope she would do the same for me because it brought me more closer to my brother but also always getting to hang out with my bestie to so it was a win win for me they aren’t together now, now they don’t even speak but I’m still close to both of them so give it a chance you might end up liking them as a couple :) just be opened minded.

[shyonehere]

You could be right. I'm just hurt about his cheating and crossing that line and her betraying my trust and also crossing that line... plus, she hasn't even tried apologizing or feeling sorry for doing this to me and putting me in an awkward position.

[crazycagurlz]

The blame should always be on the cheater and never the mistress. As a friend you have no right to tell her who she can or can't sleep with. Your brother literally cheated on his girlfriend yet you're more angry with your friend? That's internalized misogyny.

[Twalli]

They're both issues, not because they had sex though. Because they both knew he had a girlfriend and chose to have sex. If he was single and they were having sex, then I would say that you should get over it. Clearly, she wants to do it with him, that's why she's been crushing on him and probably why she kept coming over as your friend. Yet, letting him cheat on his girlfriend with her is inexcusable.

[volumeup89]

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[boggboss]

U think she is more to blame then your brother delusional

[shyonehere]

They both made choices... my brother is always going to be my family and never told him to never touch my friend. I DO have a choice to continue my friendships and she DID go out of her way to deceive me and ignore my wishes.

[boggboss]

And your brother is a shit person and a cheater lol

[shyonehere]

yeah..."lol"... I don't get it. What is the obsession with the brother? Yeah, it's a shitty thing he did. ANYWAY... the question is about my friend... the best friend that snuck around and betrayed my trust. The one that I get to choose whether to patch up a relationship with or not. My brother is not the one that betrayed me or that I get to choose whether he is my brother or not. Should I forgive HER?

[boggboss]

Y obsession is based on your ability to hold 1 part more responsible then the other

[Anonymous]

Well your brother is cheating but your friend should know better but they make their own decisions so it’s up to you if you want to be friends still

[jayhams]

Other than it being in your room it is weird you care who your brother has sex with.

[shyonehere]

I don't find it weird. It would be like a friend of yours sneaking around to bang your school age little sister... if that doesn't have any affect on you, then alright. I would call it weird though. Plus, it's a huge betrayal type thing to me and that he is cheating on his girlfriend... but once again, I guess you think it's normal and I'M the weird one.

[jayhams]

You said your brother is 23. If my sister is 23 she can have sex with whoever she wants to and same goes for my friends. You are 100% weird for caring where your adult brother puts his penis.

[shyonehere]

I'm not sure if you are reading the whole story, so okay... I'm 100% weird to you. Input received

[JPresidente]

She owes you an apology and is in the wrong. You did the right thing.

[Paige90]

Did you see your bothers dick?

[shyonehere]

yeah, but I've seen it a million times before

[Paige90]

Add me as a friend so I can send you a message

[Guy13]

Wow, this is wide open and unfortunate.

[Agape93]

Mind your business. Easy.

[Anonymous]

Sleeping is not a big deal.

[In_Trance]

You should sleep with hers too

[Equalisall]

Cut her off and tell the girlfriend

[shyonehere]

I'm worried that will ruin them and I love my brother and his girlfriend (now fiancé) because it was a year ago and maybe they already talked and got over it

[Equalisall]

No she has to know

[KrakenAttackin]

Hoes gonna Hoe.