Should I forgive my girlfriend for cheating on me with my brother?

[Anonymous]

[uncleBobbyb77]

Yes, and your understanding of who she is and what she does needs to change. Forgive her but trust that it will happen again if whatever compelled her to do it the first time isn't changed. No one can be who you think they are and will always fail to live up to the ideals we hold for them nor reach their full potential. They can only be who they are with a little room to grow and will do what they do just like you will be you and do what you do and cannot ever be who someone thinks you are. In my experience cheaters will cheat and either you can tolerate that or you can't but you shouldn't hold it against them for being who they are and doing what they do. Your the one who got with a cheater and expected them not to cheat. Sometimes people change for another person but you better be one incredibly amazing dude that just being with is providing everything anyone else could but is of such higher quality that it's worth changing who you are for. She cheated for a reason. Could've been revenge, habit, or unsatisfied need. Forgive her, figure out the reason she did it and fix it or forgive her while moving on without her. Then bury your brother

[hahahmm]

It is very likely that she would cheat again with others, if not with your brother. People who cheat are addicted to cheating. In her mind the relationship you have with her is not even serious. Only you think it's serious. When a woman truly believes you are serious she isn't doing this stuff.

Also, if you were to go after her now, you are sending the message that you don't respect yourself & that will just make it even more likely for her to treat you like dirt. So even IF you still want her, I don't think you can have her in a good way... meaning a serious relationship. And you really want to be the guy paying to wine & dine your girlfriend while your brother gets porn sex from her whenever you're away from the house for more than 30 minutes? Ha ha ha. nahhhh. Sorry, but this is over and done with. Probably months or years before you even knew it.

She's for the streets. A woman who is worth taking seriously or promoting to fiance level wouldn't do this. There is no future in this relationship unless your goal is just to have meaningless sex forever.

I do think you should forgive her and not be rude/nasty about it. BUT that doesn't mean you should stay in the relationship or that you should be friends. If it was a short term cheating thing, I would definitely pat my brother on the back and thank him for finding out she's a street wh@re for me. Bros before hos.

See https://www.girlsaskguys.com/user/hahahmm/takes

[hahahmm]

Sorry. Meant to share this link: A Note On Giving Trust ↗

[DishLady]

Dear Lord, has everyone gone mad? I swear it’s the summer heat. Go hydrate, maybe you’ll start thinking clearly.


No. Your brother is your brother. Go sort that shit out.


YOKO needs to hit the road. Why talk about forgiving the cheating harlot and not the enabling brother?

[Crimsyjo]

Noooo. Both are in the wrong. But your most likely have to at least be civil to your brother one day. Dump the girlfriend.

[AI Opinion]

Diving into the ocean of love and relationships, I'm here to help you navigate these choppy waters! Ah, the tangled web of love and betrayal, it's a theme as old as time. Forgiveness, my friend, is a complex potion, brewed with understanding, acceptance, and a whole lot of self-reflection. It's not just about saying, "All is forgiven," but truly feeling it in your heart. Now, we're dealing with a double whammy here – not just your partner, but your brother too. 😳

Before you decide to forgive and possibly forget, ask yourself a few questions. Can you trust her again? Is this a one-time mistake or a red flag parade? And can your relationship with your brother survive this storm?

Remember, forgiveness is a journey, not a destination. It's also about healing yourself, not just the relationship. Take your time, listen to your heart, and remember, love should make you feel secure and valued, not like you're solving a mystery thriller. If you find yourself constantly playing detective, it might be time to close the book on this chapter. 🕵️‍♂️💔

[OlderAndWiser]

Not ready to break up with her? Afraid you'll never again get laid?

What about your brother? He fucked you over, too.

[hahahmm]

Brother was wrong... but, the sooner you find out your girlfriend is a cheating wh@re, the better. So at the end of the day, brother did him a favor. If OP was engaged/married to his girlfriend when this happened I'd have a different opinion. It's way more serious then. My POV comes from having my heart broken multiple times by cheaters till I got to the point where I can flip a switch and get over a woman in 1 second If needed, no matter how deep my feelings ran from her before I flipped that switch.

[hahahmm]

*for her

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Don’t Get Mad Get Even.

You can forgive but you may not forget & if truth be told you should thank your brother for doing you the favor & exposing a cheater. After that tell your girlfriend you think your brother has STD’s & after she freaks out put itching powder in your brother’s underwear & if you still have access to your girlfriend’s panties do the same.

[abc3643]

You don't let the brother off the hook here. He's an asshole too (assuming he knew that the girl was dating his brother).

[Static_In_The_Attic]

@abc3643 Oh believe me down the road you get the brother too. Bang his wife one day.

[Drewtate]

Yes but you guys are over in the Long term. You could continue to be with her but because you took her back after cheating on you with your brother she will never respect you or see you as a man.

In the short term you could continue to see her just for regular sex but knowing you can never get serious with her and should be willing to dump her a bit down the line when something better comes a long.

Forgive your brother but never forget and never trust him again. Keep him at arms length.

[abc3643]

You should forgive neither of them and become permanently estranged from both of them. Furthermore, you should let your parents know what has happened because they are going to wonder why you are estranged from your brother.

[Daniela1982]

Isn't your brother half at fault? You should really be mad at him as he was your Bro, not some girl, who you grew up with. That is the ultimate betrayal.

[KrakenAttackin]

@daniela1982 Yes, but if it wasn't the bro it would have been some other guy.

[Daniela1982]

@KrakenAttackin Maybe so, but they are still equally at fault.

[hahahmm]

@KrakenAttackin Exactly.

[hahahmm]

@daniela1982 I don't think a girlfriend is anywhere on the level of a fiance or a wife. There's no permanent commitment there. It's same as if the brother was walking down the street looking for hookers. If my girlfriend is on the street corner as a hooker that's on her. I'd only expect that my brother would tell me 1st thing that he found her like this and not be pathetic and hiding behind my back about it.

[uncleBobbyb77]

Agreed. She cheated either for revenge, she knows no other way or has an unsatisfied need. Forgive her, figure out why and either fix that or move on. Then whoop or bury your brother. He obviously doesn't have your back so forgive him from a distance.

[dustybiker2]

Wow. Think your brother is in an even tougher position. What do you want?

[avery58]

Definitely not. That's one of the worst things you could do to anyone.

[Aubrey97]

Oof. I don't see how I'd be able to forgive either of them.

[LiamJHayden]

You can do what you want. I personally would dump her and write up my trust in such a way as to exclude the brother no matter what, but that's just me.

[exitseven]

No, and I would not forgive your brother either. The both of them would be dead to me.

[DrPepper12]

Yeah! It will make Thanksgiving more entertaining!! WTAF?

[es20490446e]

You can forgive her, but you won't trust her again.

So leave the relationship.

[es20490446e]

And your brother, sadly, isn't also someone you can have a healthy relationship with.

[Dongie]

Yes. Doesn't mean you have to accociate with him. She'd be dust. But still forgive.

[KrakenAttackin]

Just remember, when it slipped out, she reached down and put it back in. Never forget this.

[pethouse]

No plane and simple. They both went behind you back how is this even a question?

[Anonymous]

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[strateguy632]

yes but dump her.

[RavVid]

NO. That is unforgivable.

[Amandanator]

No you should stay far away from her.

[leftovercream_]

You shouldn’t forgive either one of them.

[handsomelad70]

I wouldn't, but it's up to you, laddie.

[Vermillion30]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. Move on.

[DreamLife7]

These troll post yawn 🥱

[Ms_Facesitter]

You shouldn't.

[MK1997]

You'd be stupid

[noohair]

Brother? No way!