How do you cope after been ‘’rejected’’ by someone who was ‘’leading you’’ along for months?

[Anonymous]

There was a guy at work that has been giving me aTON of signs of interest / attraction ( both physical and verbal signs ). I mean it was so obvious, my friends and random people were telling me the guy was 100% interested. Just to tell you that I’m not crazy.

Only thing … this guy who happened to be so extroverted wasn’t asking me out, so I decided to make a move.

Yesterday , I asked him how a handsome man like him is still single. He replied that he has been hurt before, has a hard time trusting women and hasn’t been in love for many years. He added that his unorthodox lifestyle won’t please his girlfriend if he had one , and the only way he’d settle is if he truly falls in love which hasn’t happened in years. He even added he couldn’t even fall in love with his ex who was almost perfect. He literally told me his life is f*cked up and all over the place.

He asked me after if I was interested in him and I admitted that I was interested. Then I asked him why he was flirting and showing all those ‘’ hints ‘’ . He replied that he’s just naturally flirty, but it didn’t change the fact that he still finds me attractive and beautiful.

I admitted that I was disappointed because of those mixed signals and I just hope that this won’t make things weird between us. He agreed and he high five me ( like that was helpful ).

I did feel bad for what he went through and wish him all the best but , It’s sucks because I am a good woman. I am a beautiful and attractive woman ( not to vent ) . I have a big heart and I want to give this love and attention to a good Man that I love and who loves me back.

I’m disappointed …embarrassed … shocked ( very shocked ) and a little hurt because I really started to like this guy.

I really thought there was something…

[MrOracle]

Feel thankful. He could have easily used your feelings to manipulate you into sex, but he told you the truth instead:that he would make a terrible boyfriend right now.

You need to learn not to invest yourself emotionally until you have talked to a guy and confirmed his situation. Lots of attractive guys are taken, not in a position to be in a relationship, or are not interested in a relationship, so if you don't qualify a guy before you emotionally invest in him, you will get hurt, and sometimes used. You have to do the work...

[Guy13]

Stay Busy, Improve, stay away from opposite sex does more to demonstrate no effect to the gutter than anything else. Casually move along with life. Date do not sleep with etc… regular life.

[dustybiker]

Feel it. Then pick yourself up and find someone better.

[Vikkrram]

Maybe some guys are flirty in nature and exteoverts are really flirty ones. As u told that u attractive so he was just flirting wid you