My girlfriend is much younger than me?

[thekingjoker]

I’m 37 and I’m in love with a 21 year old girl. Is that weird? My friends and family do not know that my girlfriend is that much younger than me. I’m sure if they looked at her they could tell she’s pretty young. I know it’s a huge age gap but she makes me happy. I don’t think I’ve ever been more in love with a woman in all my life. I wanna marry her but I’m afraid that my friends and family will judge me. I was thinking of proposing soon with all our friends surrounding us. I just want everyone to be supportive of our relationship. I’m ready for a wife and a family and she says she is as well. My girlfriend’s best friend called me a pervert for dating her. I’m afraid they will all think that way. What is the best way to get support from family and friends?

[SnowedIn]

Your question was "What is the best way to get support from family and friends?" The rest is good information but irrelevant. I agree with all the other posters that if you stay with her people are going to judge. There's nothing you can do that will change that first impression. BUT... you can both influence the long term. And that's where the answer to your question is: patience and consistency. You say you both love and care for each other. If you want to win over family and friends, you have to demonstrate that. Yes, it's not fair that you have to work exponentially harder than if you were each other's age, but that's where it's at. You and she need to show that you're a good fit for each other. Every time you're with friends and family, just show that it's a good match and that you love each other. In time, they'll say, "those two work well together". They'll see your chemistry and conversation -- and those will have to match what you say. And you have to face the reality that some will never agree with you and they'll continue to throw the pervert word at you. Whatever. If you love her, really love her, go for it. Edward VIII gave up the English crown for love. So, yeah, go for it.

[exitseven]

Really give this a lot of thought and consider all the things that might make this difficult. If you think that you can get past it all you should go for it. It is really hard to deal with parents and relatives but it is also really hard to find somebody to love.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[kylee2437]

Hmm so with this age gap it’s going to be hard for people not to judge and if your mind is in it, you shouldn’t let others opinions matter. I think the biggest thing is her stepping up to the plate and actually being who you said she is because I know for a fact when I was 21 years old just 4 years ago, I definitely wasting ready for a marriage and children. Even as an almost 25 year old, I wouldn’t go for a 37 year old. To each it’s own, but how you let others dictate your relationship is up to you to walk around confidently with

[peacesncream]

They say age ain't nun but a number n how u a pervert when u both grown I had a situation kind of similar to this there was this 33 year old he wanted married n kids but I didn't want it right then but our family knows eachother and do what makes u happy you will lift a load off your shoulders

[Berethor]

You almost twice her age so people gonna judge you, many guys also gonna be jealous of you as it not uncommon for guys to prefer young girls, are you rich? how did you found her?

[RolandCuthbert]

The problem is not the age difference. It is her age. That is what concerns me. If she was 26 and you were 40, that would be better.

[inhua]

people are gonna have their judgements and that can't be stopped unfortunately. at the end of the day, it's not their relationship, it's yours.

[CallmeTheKnight]

For me it's odd, but it's easier for me to say when I do date like that.
To each it's own, but for you to ask about it... You've had some doubts for a while and not so sure of it yourself

[artsy_dragon]

I mean as long as you both want to be in the relationship it is fine!

[Anonymous]

It's fine and congratulations. Put a baby in her ASAP.

[Guy13]

No it’s perfect ‼️

[Guy13]

When she’s 40-45 working on cougar then she’ll be dumping you at the Nursing Home. Either way, she’s got 1/2. And 1/2 at 32 might be better than waiting for Nursing Home drop off date 👸🏻

[Anonymous]

You will be judged no matter what. If both of you genuinely like each other then others can go to hell

[slatyb]

I'm 47 and I'm in love with 17 20-somethings

[Snedger____]

That's wonderful