I like a girl a lot but she’s much younger?

[Anonymous]

I have been talking to a girl that’s 18 the last few weeks she’s going into the service and she’s an awesome person and pretty I am 31 though we are supposed to go on a date I have good intentions but I’ve never dated more than a couple years off my age is it inappropriate to go out with her? I don’t specifically want someone younger and definitely wasn’t searching it out but just by chance we met and hit off what do you guys think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, I gotta be real with you - that age gap is kinda sus, especially since the girl is only 18. Even though she's legal, there's still a pretty big power dynamic and life experience difference there that could make things complicated.

I get that you two hit it off and you have good intentions, but dating someone that much younger when you're 31 could come across as a little predatory, you feel me? People might start to question your motives, even if you're just genuinely into her.

My advice would be to really think hard about whether this is the right move, both for you and for her. At 18, she's still got a lot of growing and maturing to do. You're at a very different stage of life. The risk of her getting hurt or taken advantage of, even unintentionally, is pretty high.

I know it sucks, but you might wanna consider just being friends instead. Or if you really can't shake those feelings, at least wait until she's a little older before pursuing anything romantic. That would show a lot more respect and consideration on your part.

Remember, just because it's technically legal doesn't mean it's the right thing to do. You gotta take the moral high ground here, bro. Don't let your attraction cloud your judgment. Protect that young lady, even if it means letting her go.

There are plenty of other fish in the sea that are closer to your age and stage of life. I get it can be tempting to go for the younger chick, but trust me, it's rarely worth the drama and judgment that comes with it. Stay strong, and find someone more age-appropriate. You got this!

[Avicenna]

She's joining the military? forget about it. She'll meet other guys and forget all about you.

Just meet someone else.

[Abbycado]

If she’s going into the service, how will you see her?

[Asker]

I’m a patient person it’s national gaurd so she’ll be home sometimes the age was my concern as I typically stick to my age

[Abbycado]

Well, if she is of age and adult enough to make that sorta decision and commitment then she can decide if she wants to date an older guy.

[Asker]

That’s exactly how I was thinking some outside opinions would be good I certainly don’t want to take advantage of her in anyway thank you for your opinion makes me feel better it doesn’t feel weird to me I always feel like if you’re an adult it’s all chemistry after that and it’s a number but you have to be an adult I draw the line at 18 but again typically stick closer

[Abbycado]

She’s mature enough to make that commitment, she can make others. That’s a major decision.

[theiona1]

if you both share Same feelings that’s fine

[theiona1]

But did u know her when she was youngef

[theiona1]

Younger

[Asker]

Not until after we had talked a few times but before agreeing to the date yes I kinda made an exception because she seems really good and high morals and stuff and I do think she’s cute if i didn’t know any better I’d think she was mid 20s she doesn’t really look younger

[theiona1]

But I mean did u first talk when she was younger

[Asker]

Ohhhh no I didn’t we just met a few weeks ago she’ll be 19 soon

[theiona1]

Im not judging by the way Im just asking cos I’ve heard of stuff like that before

[Asker]

She works at a store in my town it started off just small talk

[theiona1]

Ok i think that’s fine? What kind of store?

[Asker]

Gas station I go in there every day anyway because I have too lol so it was just a really unplanned thing that I liked her she says it’s mutual and agreed to a date so just gonna see how it goes

[theiona1]

That’s cute

[theiona1]

Also I’d love a follow cos Im bored lol

[theiona1]

Thanks

[theiona1]

Actual message

[lilBigPotato]

You're both adults if you are both interested why not

[Kingofkings1992]

18 is not an adult lol

[lilBigPotato]

@Kingofkings1992 it is

[Kingofkings1992]

Legally, sure, but that doesn’t mean much. 25 is when a person is fully mentally developed. 18 is a child in an adults body.

[lilBigPotato]

@Kingofkings1992 it depends on the individual. There are 25 year olds who behave like kids and there are teens who are very mature. So you can only go by law and at that age you are considered an adult. Which is fine because at that age you should be able to make a decision if you should date someone or not. If you can't, you have much bigger problems. And legally it doesn't even matter if you're an adult or not, age of consent matters which is even lower

[Kingofkings1992]

When you get to be in your 30s, you’ll look back and think it was silly that you thought 18 was an adult. Trust me.

[ProbablyClueless]

Eh... I wouldn't go for that, if I were you. 18 Is just too young.

[chrissykerdock]

actually that's really not much at all

[Asker]

Thank you appreciate that I just never dated any kind of age gap before it doesn’t feel weird talking to her tho she’s mature for her age in my opinion I do plan to take anything physical extremely slowly it’s definitely not my focus I would be looking for something long term if you know things continue to go well it’s early

[chrissykerdock]

never plan but go with the flow it's not bad

[zagor]

Go for it, but if she's going off to the military don't expect it to last.

[Nikki1989]

Somewhat creepy, but not illegal.

[Asker]

Well it would be the only age gap I’ve tried I certainly don’t have like a specific fetish for younger girls but we met by chance talked liked each other she’s going isn’t the gaurd she’s a very high moral person and I made an exception on age because she seem like a really good person

[Kingofkings1992]

she’s too young for you, bro.