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Alright. I was not going to ask about this bc I really do not think there was any bad intention, on the other hand it’s bothering me so here I go.

I regularly have physical therapy for chronic dizziness. Therapists change every few months. This last one I clicked with immediately. He gives me exercises and answers questions. There is no physical contact.

After my sessions ended, seeing as we get on pretty well & with him being new in the area I invited him out platonically— just me showing him around.

I made it clear I am not interested in dating. He said he travels so he’s not about dating atm, we understand each other. No problems.

Fourth time we met up mind you this was over three months period of time- we weren’t meeting up constantly. It was very late we were listening to street music playing their last song, he moves in (slowly enough for me to stop him - I give him props for that) I stopped him. I asked him ‘you said you wanted to be friends. We both agreed?’ He said he did. He does. He was just feeling very friendly. 👀 👀

I knew he was joking so I laughed but then my mind went back to the issue which was:

1. I do not want to get involved.

2 I thought he didn’t want to get involved.

3 he basically lied to me.

And here’s the thing. He answered me honestly but I now doubt I can trust him.

he said he kind of assumed I was just saying I didn’t want more than friends bc everyone says that (((do they?)) and we get on well so he thought he’d just wait and see.

it doesn’t bother me he turned out to be a bit interested or that he tried to kiss me or even him lying bc he didn’t have an obligation to tell he if he was interested in anything - as long as he accepted I wasn’t.

It is the fact he assumed I was lying and I’m quite tired of people thinking I am playing a game when I’m direct. Even nice people.

He didn’t trust me & I don't know if I can trust him. BUT he did come clean. He could have played it off as a misunderstanding.

What would you do?

For context, I moved out at 24 & owned a condo for 3 years. Moved back in with family fall 2022 & decided to go that route bc of the housing market & just wanting to save up. Plus I had a crappy neighbor that made me want to sell and ironically enough moved out shortly after, I still went ahead and sold because no guarantee a new neighbor would’ve been better. I have a bit of a nest egg from selling my old place but it’s locked away in a cd & trying to be smart. I feel like I should have some more shame/be more down with my life (how society would see it) but maybe I know I would’ve felt worse if I was still living with family & have NEVER lived on my own. Or am I lying to myself? Is living on your own then moving back with parents at 29 the same kind of shame vs living with them at 29 & having never lived on your own? Lastly, have a bachelor’s degree + own my car/only high debt is student loans ~9K, just naming positives 😶