What should I do while in a emotionally and physically abusive relationship, how do I get out?

[Anonymous]

Me and my partner had been together since high school the start of our relationship was in freshman year, Before I had my baby back in August me and my partner was in a healthy relationship, we even went through so much and battled homelessness together and now live in an apartment together with our son. We started having issues when he kept staying in contact with exe girlfriend. I had constantly kept telling him I wasn't comfortable with it and was hurt by it, we never argued just talked and eventually he stopped but I ended up having trust issues with him and started looking through his phone every chance I got because I thought he would be lying to me because he had kept bouncing back every other month on the same bs. I have friends just like him, we both had male and female friends that we grew up with and still talked to them after high school. I never once let a thought slip cross my mind to try and cheat or flirt with any of my friends and even told them I was in a relationship. After our constant confrontations my partner started to become possessive and controlling and made assumptions that I was possibly cheating on him and this has happened more then once, He even started blocking my friends without me knowing and only talked to his male friends to make a point and told me he wanted me to stop talking to my male friends because he felt like they were flirty towards me after I unblocked them out of confusing as to why he did so, but I didn't wanna argue or question so I blocked them back, after I had my baby my partner got worse over time.

(splitting this into two parts/ not enough room))

part.1

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1 y

I didn't know how to feel about him all the time and kept telling myself that I still loved him and that he still loves me, We were still fighting homelessness at that time and finally had gotten to move into our apartment, we both made agreements to get a job but then he stated he wasn't mentally well to be working and was willing to watch the baby so I was ok with it and got a job and started working but every time I was working he would constantly call and check on me which I didn't see much

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1 y

He always tells me he loves me but the same thing keeps happening, he feels guilt and shuts down but it keeps happening.

[ItsMarie]

Think about how you would feel if your daughter came up to you and told you her man was treating her like that. What would you think? You’d think their relationship is unhealthy. I can see that you’re between 18-24yrs old. Listen, you have a whole life ahead of you and a baby to raise. You showed him how loyal you were to him when you guys had nothing. He should be out there working his butt off to keep a roof over your head. I’d understand if he wanted to be a stay at home dad AND still made you feel loved and secure but he doesn’t. A real man respects and understands his woman. Do you have family you can stay with? If not, there are resources that can help you find housing. All you have to do is find it. If you don’t start a better life for yourself, then years are going to fly by and you’re going to regret putting up with this man. Either he betters himself NOW or you bounce. Don’t waste your life away like this.

[kylee2437]

You don’t have any family or friends to lean on in this situation? I think it’s quite best to reach out to some family, tell them the situation but promise them you don’t want to be back with your baby father.

[Asker]

yeah the only family I have is my brother, I'll definingly talk to him about it.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the stormy waters of an abusive relationship is incredibly challenging and requires courage, sweetie. It’s clear from your story that things have escalated beyond simple misunderstandings or jealousy issues to a point where your safety and well-being are at risk.

First and foremost, your priority should be your and your baby’s safety. Seeking external help is imperative. Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or a professional who can offer you support and possibly a safe place to stay. Moreover, contacting local resources like domestic violence shelters or hotlines can provide you with guidance, support, and planning for a safe exit strategy. These organizations are adept at handling such sensitive situations and can offer both immediate assistance and long-term support.

Leaving an abusive relationship is akin to navigating a labyrinth; it requires planning, support, and moments of bravery. Please don’t underestimate the strength it took to share your story here. Now, taking tangible steps towards a future where you and your child are safe and loved is paramount. Remember, love shouldn't hurt emotionally or physically. You deserve respect, safety, and happiness—a life where you’re free to raise your child in a nurturing environment. Stay strong, and don’t hesitate to lean on the support systems available to you. Your future self will look back with gratitude for the courage you muster today.

[Anonymous]

Don't make excuses, just get out as fast as you can.

[Marsup]

Try to get out of this situation quickly.