Leaving an emotionally abusive relationship and how to overcome it?

[Anonymous]

Kinda just ranting right now but I am currently in the process of finally leaving an emotionally abusive relationship I've been in. He would call me every name in the book, threaten to cheat on me if I didn’t do what he said, and many more things. He was a narcissist that had no empathy for anything he did. I think the final straw was him sending me a girls nude that he’s had in his phone for over 10 months and going “ this is what makes me hard.” I immediately blocked him and that’s when the harassing started with blowing up my phone with no caller id. I finally slipped last night and answered and started saying how disgusting he was and that he crossed a line that I couldn’t come back from. Now today he’s blowing up my email saying “ babe 😡” any advice on not going back to this piece of shit? I think I’m trauma bonded.

[Lucy68]

2 1/2 months ago I recently got out of an abusive relationship and we're talking about this guy was mentally, emotionally, physically, and sometimes sexually abusive (it was a miserable 5-6 years). The final straw was him not only cheating on me again but he got the girl pregnant which eventually was the final straw and I left which resulted in him blowing up my phone and sending threatening messages. The best advice I would give is make sure to block him from everything including emails, change your number if you have to, and try to gather enough proof so you can get a restraining order. Find a really good support group that can also be family and friends that can help you out, and if need be try seeing a counselor (it helps trust me). But really try to get a restraining order on them if you can. I hope this helps and good luck to you.

[sawno]

What you need to remember is that you don't feel any love for him. Wait until you are in a reasonably neutral mindset and look at a picture of him to see how you react. Chances are instead of love you feel hatred. That means any heartbreak pain or desire for him is not related to him, you just desire a guy. If you do have feelings when you look at the picture then its still tied to him, don't go back since you hate him but when he pops in your mind or when you get the urge to go back steer your thoughts to you telling him its over because of what he did. Eventually your mind complies.

[Danny_dan92]

Remain busy, listen to music that is uplifting and or therapeutic. See a therapist (if needed)


Workout, take up more hours at work, spend time with friends/family. Sleep. Take up a new hobby. Go on vacation.


There’s another thing but it’s not something most people like to do but yeah

[ArrowheadSW]

See a lawyer who specializes in such things, and get a restraining order against him.

[Rohaan2020]

I guess u should just cut him off... so he couldn't reach u at any cost... i know its rlly difficult as even m going through the same situation and I am not able to let her go as easily i am asking you to do so... but that's the only option

[LegendaryIcon]

You need to tell him it's over and that if he continues to harass you, you will get a restraining order. Shame on him! You deserve MUCH better than that