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If you're honest with yourself, the majority of you will have to admit you've at one moment, or another in your life, rejected someone.

"... but I let them down easy."

"It was just some random person."

"I just didn't see them that way."

... right?

Who among us says yes to everyone who hits on us, makes a pass, solicits, or asks us out? Who among us feels the exact same way as someone else as they do us EVERY SINGLE TIME?

... so what's your beef? You've rejected others, and want to complain about YOUR fear of being rejected?

What do you do? Do you ghost them? Are you blunt? Do you "let them down easy"?

Come on, now. That is just a little bit hypocritical.

... but these people who pine after you are are as guilty of the same things you are. They're overly over-invested in an idea.

So are you.

Your idea of the person you want to ask out, that's what sparks your fear. That imagined outcome of something that doesn't yet exist.

Think about it. That emotional over-investment has the exact same result as fear, except instead of imagining a worse case scenario, you imagine a best case scenario to a situation that doesn't yet exist.

To put it bluntly, in emotion: you care too much. In fear: you care too much.

I'm not asking you to stop caring about someone. Im asking you to learn to be objective.

I am not often rejected... and when it does hapoen, who cares?

I'm going through a new chapter in my life where I'm 28 years young, self employed. Loving fitness and studying Economics, i know who i am and what my purpose on this earth is. I'm just really happy with who I've become... However I', m now looking for a lady to settle down with... not so easy.

Is it just me or is it difficult to find a female with anything more than sexual intelligence?

What i mean by Sexual intelligence is getting a man to lust over you, which really isn't difficult yet they think it's an accomplishment. Once the honey moon stage is done and you sit down to actually have an intelligent conversation with ladies... you can tell no one is home upstairs :-s

I feel like woman have been lied to their whole lives and I don't even know who lied to them but they all do it, thinking that a pretty face and "how long i can keep you away from my vagina" whilst dressed half naked is somehow empowerment? Somehow intelligence? Somehow fitting of your commitment to her?

My whole life i have had women tell me they love me. However when i quiz them on, what my mothers name is, what my favourite food is, just general questions like that, they go blank.. am i the only one dealing with this?

When i ask my female friends, they tell me, "Maybe you aren't looking in the right places, to which i answer, "if i have to search the nooks and crannies for intelligent conversation, then what is that saying about the populous of women?"

Guys, is it easy for you to find girls you can talk about geopolitics with? Investment ideas? Astronomy, History? First principles? Philosophy?
And who won't give you 1 word replies?

I used to wonder why women complained about all the good men disappearing, now I've become one, I GET WHY THEY RAN!

I feel so let down and disappointed that sexual persuasion seems to be all females these days have, is any one else going through this? I think I'm just an old soul in a young body lol (youngish)