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I'm asking this question for my job coach. He overheard my crush saying she wasn't trying to "reject" me.

Today I found out verbally that this week will be my crush's last week working at the thrift store that I volunteer at. She (19) is a few years younger than me (22). My job coach (33) is much older than me, but they seem to get along slightly better - just slightly.

For the "longest" time (I'd say about a month or two) I hadn't opened myself up to the girl I approached. Despite her being younger than me, she was actually in charge of the site where I was helping with donations and stocking clothes separately by gender/age (men's, women's, kids') and type (tops, bottoms).

Once I heard from her that she was quitting, I asked her where she thinks she's considering moving to as far as career goes, and she said she's moving for school. I prompted that she didn't mind me asking, could I have her number. She said no, I apologized by saying sorry but she told me not to be sorry since it's work and she has to keep it all work-related, even after I said I just wanted to make a friend.

THAT was when my job coach started hearing the "reject" part from the girl's mouth. To be fair, my job coach even told me that when he and she first started talking it seemed a bit off. The girl was supposed to just be a temporary employee.

My job coach thought that I was making the girl feel uncomfortable and the disability program I belong in has guidelines regarding communications/appropriate talk with the opposite sex. I've literally seen job coaches flirt with each other in the program and people didn't seem to think it was a big deal.

The girl and the male job coach both are white people of European ethnicity. I am ethnically Arab and Armenian.

The rules exist because of the monetary rewards system and the points get downgraded if misbehaviors and even flaws are pointed out by the job coaches. Men with disabilities are almost treated like children in many cases.

I'm asking because I'm not a father but my sister was saying how she'd much rather have done what my dad did than even raise one child. I completely disagree. I'm not a parent but I feel like even 60 hours at something I hate on behalf of my family is harder than raising 2 children I love. I do recognize that raising kids is like a job without pay, but you have food and shelter and more because your spouse loves you. Is that security not enough? Do you feel like you need luxury because of all that you do at home? After work, it's not like one person is doing everything although there is one primary homemaker.

Please share if you have experience. I'm not saying either is easy. I'm not saying either should be disrespected. I'm just saying that it feels like to me that people should be happy to be spending time with their children and should respect that someone else is willing to do something he/she hates to feed the family.

I really am open to hearing opinions though. Maybe I'm missing something. I love my sister too by the way but I just feel like she's disrespecting my dad by saying this. At one point, he actually worked without a day off for over a year, 85 hours/week, and they actually had 6 kids together. by the way I absolutely love my mom. She's my hero and she kept our family together, and my dad actually is far from the coolest person in the world but I still recognize what he did for our family.

Just in case you're wondering why I didn't use the numbers 85 hours and 6 kids, it's because those numbers are difficult for people to comprehend. Also, I'm thinking about my future, and I don't plan to have 6 kids or work 85 hours/week