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So, recently talking to my bestie, she and I realized how both our boyfriends tend to lack empathy.

My boyfriend is so stubborn that he isn't wiling to yield on certain things, or, even consider that he could be in the wrong. It has resulted in fights between us, ending with him being confused. I ask him questions like "if you were in my shoes, and I said that to you, how would that make you feel?"... and he then will come to realization, and apologize, or at least meet me halfway.

Do you think its possible to make someone more empathetic?

He's really nice to me but I found out that he write vile misogynistic on internet like saying :

"Only purpose of women is for sex"

He's also very racist especially against Muslim and Black. Said he would never date a woman if she dated one fo those saying they're whore and traitor.

He also commented on how he had sex with a 15 years old when he was 25 and how having sex with a woman inebriated is ok and not rape.

I'm not sure what to think of it because while he have said such horrible things he's the sweetest to me and have never been mean to me.

I went to his country for Holliday but he want me to stay permanently, said I could find a job easily but I don't speak the language neither can I read the words because they don't use latin letters. He told me I could easily learn it fast.

I'm confused what to do because I love him and even though he made mean comment, he never ever treated me badly or yelled at me or anything.