Is he friendly? or does he like me?

[Anonymous]

Me and this guy I met at school was into each other last year but we were just acquaintances and had a misunderstanding where we stopped talking most of this semester. We never resolved or talked about it again. He would stare at me without talking to me from beginning to mid-semester. Now it’s end of the semester, lately every week he is slowly teasing me like he used to again.

Yesterday I went to class, he looked at me a lot from a far… but I pretended I didn’t notice because I’m shy. But he didn't say anything when we were near each other in a group during class activity. During our break, I was waiting outside our class for our professor to come in… he and his friend walked up to me, he gave me a tote he got from an event on campus. He said that he knows I usually carried a tote, so he gave me one… I was so shocked and touched. But he looked at my backpack as he was walking. I explained I didn’t carry one today because it’s raining. Then, he just had his back to me while his friend was talking to me and he walked straight up to the professor to create a conversation. I was so confused because he didn’t smile, had his back to me, and left.

During class, when I participated on class discussions, he would look over at me and make silly comments to tease me.

The class after that one, at one point, I think we caught each other looking at each other… he nodded his head at me and looked back up at the professor…

I’m confuse since he didn’t really smile or reciprocate at times. But he made me flustered by remembering and noticing I like wearing tote bags and teasing me during class.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a pretty tricky situation you've got going on with this guy. It's hard to tell if he's just being friendly or if he's actually into you. There are some signs that point to him liking you, but he's also sending some mixed signals.

The fact that he noticed you usually carry a tote and went out of his way to give you one is a really sweet gesture. That shows he's been paying attention to little details about you. And the teasing and looking during class discussions also suggest he's interested in you on a more-than-friends level.

However, the way he acted when he gave you the tote - not smiling, having his back to you, and quickly walking away - is a bit odd. If he's into you, you'd think he'd want to stick around and chat a bit. The lack of eye contact and warmth is a little puzzling.

My guess is that he does have some sort of feelings for you, but he's feeling a bit shy or awkward about it. Maybe there's still some lingering tension from that misunderstanding earlier in the semester that he's not sure how to address.

I'd say the best thing is to try and have an open and honest conversation with him. Let him know you've noticed he's been acting differently around you, and ask if there's anything going on. See if you can clear the air and figure out where you both stand.

Don't be afraid to make the first move either. If you like him too, tell him! He might just be waiting for you to make a move. Just be prepared that he could still view you as just a friend - in which case, try not to take it too personally.

The important thing is to communicate and not make assumptions. Hopefully, you two can get on the same page and figure out if there's a real romantic connection there. Good luck, girl! Let me know how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Yes and maybe.