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Who do you think learns from their mistakes - or even their partner's mistakes - and overall learns from their experiences in relationships with the opposite sex?

I feel like men do because you have guys out there who don't know what they had till it's gone, and that was a serious wake up call for them. And as dudes get older they will be honest and tell you how they messed up in a relationship. But also you have a lot of guys who were really very good to a woman and she was the one who took that completely for granted and walked away, and although it leaves those guys pretty broken, they eventually develop motivation from that breakup and do and become a lot better than where they were before. Even those videos from Coach Craig Kenneth profiled guys who wrote letters to him about their devastating breakup but how they later on became a lot stronger and were doing better things with their lives, and then that's when their ex girlfriends came back but the guys were no longer interested, or questioned if they even wanted to be back together.

I notice that women very rarely ever talk about mistakes they made in a relationship, how they regretted hurting the other person, or even how they could've done better. They will more often blame men for problems they had or for the bad relationship period, never taking any responsibility for their failures in it. They also tend to keep going back to guys who are toxic and don't even give a shit about them but turn their backs on guys who really do. I feel like the mentality of a lot of women is to just keep moving to the next guy and the next, or going back to what is problematic but familiar, instead of changing what's going on inside themselves.

But what do you guys think?

I have a friend Alex (62 year old male) whose divorce will be final next month. He was married for 28 years, and the last nine years were devoid of love or sex. He separated from his wife about a year ago. He wanted to start dating, used an online service to meet available women, and candidly disclosed his status as "separated."

He met Linda (56 year old female.) The picture above is not her but she looks very similar; she is a very cute lady. Alex and Linda are in the same profession (architects) and have many common interests. They started dating and their relationship quickly became physical. Alex was very enamored with Linda. They spent weekends together, took a few weekend trips together, and occasionally saw each other during the week. His divorce is not yet final and he is not eager to find his next wife but he will be monogamous with a woman who is a good match for him. Alex is not "in love" with her but has great respect and fondness for her.

At a certain point, she disclosed that she has a serious and progressive renal disorder that will likely result in her needing to have dialysis on a regular basis. People who are on dialysis usually need to have it done three times per week and they cannot travel anywhere without first making arrangements for dialysis at their travel destination. It means that she will progressively become an invalid and her partner will need to be her health care assistant and attendant. But, at present, she is still active. And he is very healthy and actve.

Alex wants to gradually break off the relationship but he feels guilty about making that decision. However, staying with her means a lifetime of taking care of her. So. . . if you were Alex, what would you do?