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I’m 40, she’s 39 and both of us spent way too much time navigating the dating world. We’ve both been told since turning 30 to date men 10 to 20 years older. I’ve been more open to it than she was. She’s still not open to it. She’s really pretty so her looks aren’t an issue, but she gets passed over and dumped CONSTANTLY by men our age for younger women and the last time really hurt her.

I started dating a man age 54 last year and have never been happier, and dating him taught me two things: 1.) it’s really true that men like to be a little bit older than their women and 2.) men need to feel lucky to have a woman in order for a relationship to work (my boyfriend and I both know how lucky we are to have each other, but he courted and pursued me like no man my own age ever did). My friend has not accepted this yet, and it’s such a shame because my boyfriend has a friend who is perfect for her. The guy met her one time and has been begging me ever since to set him up with her and he’s been pursuing her nonstop but she won’t give him a chance just because he’s 60. She says the age gap is too big and she won’t date him because he’s 20 years older even though he treats women really well, can give her the life and love she deserves and can also respect all of the wonderful qualities that she has to offer.

That man has outright told me that he wants someone our age. How can I make her see that women our age are better off with men that age?

She said the oldest she’ll date is 50.

Am I right when I say middle aged women in their late 30’s should be dating men in their late 50’s/early 60’s? Is she right that the age gap is too big?

I’m wondering if this guy at work could have a crush on me or at the very least find me attractive. We work in completely different departments so there is minimal chance that our paths would cross in a work related context. Here is a list of his behaviours:

He is the one who started interacting with me. I noticed him gazing at me one day, our eyes met and he smiled at me.

The gazing/smiling happened a few times and he would always be the first to smile, I’d always be the first to look away.

When I eventually said hi to him, he smiled even more

He went through a phase of ignoring me and looking away when stood near me

When we do talk, he is smiling the whole time.
On our first proper interaction, he asked where I work and he said twice that he will have to come and “check it out”. I also told him what time I finish.

My friends said that they saw him walking past our office and staring into our office, ten minutes after I finished.

He acts somewhat awkward/fidgety when we walk and he sometimes backs away/walks away when we talk.

My work friends have noticed the way he looks at me. One saw us talking and she said “if my boyfriend looked like that at another girl, I’d be upset”

I was walking behind my friend and he was walking towards us. He was practically fixated on me and staring at me, then I looked at him, and he smiled at me.

I’ve never seen him talk to other random girls who aren’t in his department.

I’ve noticed that he will mess with his hair if I am nearby.

We sometimes make eye contact from afar.

Yesterday, as I turned around, I saw him looking away quickly which would indicate he was staring at me. And then as I was grabbing some cutlery, I looked up and he was staring at me.

There are some things I find confusing:

I’ve never caught him staring at me and looking at me loads
He never looks at my body, he just stares into my eyes and at my mouth
The whole walking away/backing away when I’m talking to him confuses me

What do you guys think?

I’ve accepted that this man and all men will never choose me… and the last guy is attracted to my transgender cousin and it broke me… he made me feel not good enough like most men

instead of settling and having a family/ kids I decided to get into onlyfans but I don’t know which one of the looks to go for … my cosmetic person is giving me fillers and other things but I don’t kno what look to go for