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On Halloween night I hit up a kava bar that I like to frequent. I’m not an alcoholic but I’ve really stayed away from booze in the last few years just for health reasons. The place is meant for recovery.

While I went to order a kava drink I noticed that bartender was dressed in a provocative sexy nurse uniform costume. She was showing cleavage.

I was acquaintances with this girl. Knew her first name. We had briefly friendly conversations in the past. She is cute but I never hit on her. I was always respectful. I am guessing she’s in her mid 20s.

Anyway my eyes instinctively glanced at her body and when I realized I was staring I quickly turned away. Again she was dressed provocatively.

Despite catching myself it was too late. She noticed that I noticed and she didn’t like it. She then gave me gave me the “don’t stare at me you creep” look.

And that really pissed me off. Of course I never did nor ever will say anything stupid. My eyes instinctively noticed for a good second but it’s not like I kept on staring. I didn’t indulge the thought. What right does she have to judge me given she fricken dressed up that way to get noticed to begin with?

Anyway I can’t control how people are going to think. But this is a major hypocrisy I see in women. They dress provocatively expecting to only get attention from where they want it vs. naively expecting not get noticed from where they don’t.

Hate that.

I've seen a ton of talk about false accusations, and even saw one post today on the topic. One possible solution would be to give the accuser an option to drop all accusations prior to the case going to trial. It could be the accuser going alone into a room with a form that says "do you want to continue with the case" and if they decline, no questions will be asked, and they would also be exempted from charges for false reporting. Does this seem like a good solution?

One reasonable risk I see would be with legitimate victims being intimidated into dropping charges. But it also offers a good ''out" for false accusers to stand down and save the actual victim from having their lives destroyed.