Do you feel bad for people that constantly seek validation?

[Finchie40]

Unless you are a famous celebrity or a model validation shouldn’t mean shit to you , because what does validation actually do for you? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Does it give you more options to choose from? Does it make you more popular? From my understanding , validation gets ya know where in life unless it’s part of your job to make money , but other than that it means absolute shit. Most people that seek validation are people that get used and lied to on a regular basis , because it makes them look weak by grasping for attention from others’ i actually feel bad for people that constantly seek validation , it’s like they never felt accepted by anyone , they constantly compare their lives to everyone else around them. If you want to be accepted you have to accept yourself and love yourself for who you are , fuck what other people think or say , not everyone on this planet is going to like you and accept you , Surround yourself with the people that do. Even famous celebrities hate all the attention they receive , why most of them hide themselves when they go out in public , when they stop hiding themselves , it’s because they need more money , their career is pretty much coming to an end so now they are out in public trying to get people to stay on board with them. All I am saying is validation should mean nothing to you , especially if you want to settle down with someone and fall in love , your partner more than likely doesn’t want you seeking validation when you are in a relationship with them , if you still seek validation while you are in a relationship? Then your relationship will probably be coming to an end unless your partner seeks validation as well.

[Crimsyjo]

I wasn't seeking validation but when I first started seeking relationships and things again last year after a long time keeping myself to myself I recieved a lot of validation and it has built my confidence up. For a little while it was addictive too and I was on a rollercoaster of needing validation for my self worth.

I have finally got to a place where i accept myself. I accept not everyone is gonna like me. And some people like me a lot. And I can only be me to the best of my ability (in looks and character). So in a way it was thanks to people helping me view myself differently. I always felt ugly. Since a teen.

So being validated has a place. But constantly needing it would be a problem. As you say, like in a relationship. If someone gives you validation but it's never enough I can see how that person would get sick of it.

[Pupweb]

In a way, yes, because it comes from a place where they don’t even know who they are so, they get into a nasty cycle where everything and everyone’s opinion defines them, but aside from that, it’s a choice to live that way.

[jshm2]

You aren't the brightest. So called "validation" isn't the problem, it's more complex. People with mental or social issues tend to require more support. It's part of the condition. People try and take the piss but it just makes you look ignorant.

[NathanDavis]

nope... it doesn't bother me at all

live and let live... that's my preferred approach

[Apple1996]

Everyone wants validation. It's just human nature

[Finchie40]

Yea , but constantly seeking it , is a sign of low self esteem and insecurities by constantly wanting to be accepted by other people , it shows that persons’ weakness , compared to someone that doesn’t seek validation , that just accepts themselves for who they are as a person , yea once in awhile it’s nice to be complimented and praised but constantly seeking it to make yourself happy , is pretty pathetic in my opinion

[Apple1996]

Yes the person might be insecure and low self esteem but there is nothing wrong with being those things either. It shouldn't be used as a insult. I'd rather just try to make that person feel secure

[WhitneySnow]

Validation makes you feel better about yourself

[Finchie40]

It can , but do you constantly need it to feel better about yourself?

[WhitneySnow]

I don’t, but some people do

[jahaims]

Nah, it makes it easier to see who to avoid

[idonotlikeyou]

You’re one of those people.

[Finchie40]

What’s makes you assume that? You don’t even know me lol

[idonotlikeyou]

I have had the unpleasant experience of being on this forum with you and reading your complaints about how unfairly the world treats you.

[Finchie40]

So that makes me one of these people? LOL

[Anonymous]

Yes they are insecure