Why people seek validation from people who were damaging to them?

[Anonymous]

For example if you're seeking validation from your old and toxic friend group or a failed relationship etc

[Anonymous]

One of the reason is it's self assuring.

I was with this one guy for around 7 months, we never officially dated but we were together. After I brought up the topic about relationship he blatantly said he's only with me because I was available and that I was submissive in bed which he liked a lot, he doesn't want anything more than this.

And I spend next year just trying to get validation from him, trying to prove to him that I am more than "submissive in bed" type of girl.

I feel stupid about that now.

[Anonymous]

they want to be part of the "cool" crowd even if the "cool" crowd consists of losers like cucks and femcels

[jahaims]

They are desperate

[Asker]

What do you mean by desperate? They don't really seek validation from someone "important" instead they choose someone who's (for example) judging them.