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I found out a dear friend was getting played and lied about a future. I admit that yes I did went out of my way to expose him publically (with all the evidence) on fb for everyone to see it. I don't regret it at all.

My friend only wasted 1 year with that lying, future faker, romance scammer. The jerk ended getting upset with me that now everyone knows about him and he isn't having luck with dates at this moment. I think the same about lying, golddiggers wasting a man's time too.

Saw this in a [pretty stupid] conversation between two male friends. They're in their 30s but act like they're in their 20s. One was about to text the girl he has been seeing, ask her out again. His friend stopped him to give him advice on what to say, not say. It inspired this question.

The scenario is between a guy and a girl (but you can do same sex couple if you want. But this is about gender roles and preferences.) They are not strangers. They know each other, but not that well. They have just started casually dating. They both like each other.

But... the guy is reluctant [will not] commit. He's anticipating her wanting this. He's trying to play it cool. But he wants to keep dating her, having sex with her, have her in his life. "She's cool, and she's chill, and she's level-headed. But I don't want to fast-track anything." So his friend says to him, "Just tell her, 'Look, maybe I'll get there one day, but I don't want to hold you back from living your life.'" Typical commitmentphobe player b. s. But anyway, thought I'd make a question out of it.

What I'm getting at here is if there's a majority preference toward: politeness, or assertiveness, or something else. And do guys and girls have a different, or the same, idea about this. And, girls, does the assertiveness turn you on/do you like it, or does it turn you off?

It'd be for some snacks/appetizers as well, not just drinks, but for simplicity sake I didn't write that in each multiple choice because it would be too many words. This isn't a formal or fancy dinner date, but there will be food, so don't focus on that. And for those who don't drink alcohol, you can sub in any other beverage. It's not important. But it is a date, and there is sexual tension between them.

Over the past few months, my colleagues have been ruthlessly teasing me about another colleague (we'll call him John). John and I are both in administrator roles, the colleagues who are teasing us are teachers. If we all go out for drinks, they tell me not to worry about getting drunk because John will drive me home. If I request that someone assist me with something and John volunteers first, I'll tell other colleagues who later volunteer to never mind because John is already on it and they tease me because I don't need them since John (emphasis) responded. They glance at each other and smirk when John and I are together and one even obviously lingered to eavesdrop during our conversation. They also bring him up in conversation a lot and one of them (his closest friend) was watching like a hawk when John and I were speaking in the hallway (though she was too far away to hear our conversation I think). None of the teasing or eavesdropping seems malicious. Most of them are very good friends with John and have worked with him for a few years.

I'm not sure how it all started. I suspect that a couple of the paraprofessionals (who aren't a fan of me or John) started a rumor and it eventually reached the teachers. Either that or the teachers are just trying to play matchmaker. The thing is though, John has been extremely supportive of me in some of the challenges I've faced this year, and in the last month, he's grown on me in a way that's surprised me. I'm seeking employment elsewhere, and wondering if, when I leave, I should ask John on a date. I'm not sure if he feels the same way though. I would say that maybe my colleagues picked up on me developing feelings for John over the last month, but the teasing has been going on for months, and when I first started, my colleagues told me they were intimidated because I was difficult to read (RBF), but once they got to know me, they liked me a lot. Do you think their teasing me is a hint that he has feelings for me too?