What would you assume (about both yourself and the ghoster), if someone acted highly interested but ghosted you without warning?

[Anonymous]

The term is "mosting", when they act highly interested, then ghost you and fall off the face of the Earth, without any explanation or effort to give the person any closure. How would you react to being treated like that?

What would you assume about yourself and the person doing the ghosting?

What would you to to resist getting bored or burned out after an experience like that. And what steps would you take to make sure you don't get sucked into negative self talk (stuff like "maybe they played me for a fool", "something about me might repel or disgust")?

[BadRepresentative]

I would be confused, and have a million thoughts as to why they weren't communicating, ranging from: they're dead, they forgot, didn't like me. I would assume I misunderstood. I think the best thing for me to do about it is to go to my friends to talk about it.

Also, as someone who ghosted people a bit when I was younger, I would like to shed some light on this. I'm autistic, and for me, that means I couldn't tell what signals I might be sending others. Some people confessed to me (I have no idea if they thought I was interested or if they just decided to try it), and I panicked because it was unexpected, and I couldn't figure out what to say. (Other notable mention, someone who was interested, who I just lost time for due to college, and each passing day of non communication felt like an insurmountable barrier.)

I regret this, and hope I'd be brave enough to give a response if there's a next time.

So basically, if someone seems 'mosts'/ghosts you, there's a chance that it's a communication issue or social anxiety.

[Guy13]

She’s hiding something. Needs attention not getting in current environment. Has poor judgment and probably demands lots of people but gives little. Too Start those are my initial thoughts. Your gut saying?