Search Results: how far is too far

I ask because I know that the 1960s and early 1970s were pivotal times in the USA and Europe. I will even go as far as to say that Europe is even further away with gender roles than the USA in some ways, but when did this shift happen?

Each generation is clearly more and more equal than the previous... I ask because this is a very progressive time we have lived in over the years and so much has changed; even dating is so different from how it was in our parents generation. (Now everything is more 50/50; the woman pays her half on dates or they take turns every other time paying for each other; women ask men out now, etc., etc.)

Years ago, women were not allowed to work, not allowed to date or have sex before marriage (they were expected to be virgins on their wedding night; imagine marrying someone you are not even sexually compatible with; that must have been torture and felt like a trap), not allowed to vote, not allowed to wear denim jeans, not allowed to wear sneakers, not allowed to have short hair, and not allowed to do anything without her husband's permission first. Some women were not even allowed to have friends; it was so bad! Clearly, things have changed. In many homes, the mother is the only parent raising the kids and working, or she earns more than her husband. You very rarely see a housewife. There are a few reasons for this.

* Women were very unhappy about not being able to work, earn their own money, and have the freedom to use the money they earned.
* Many women felt they missed out on life and spent their adult lives in the house, only raising kids.
* It is simply too expensive for only one spouse to work now.

Imagine how bad things used to be for women. None of that happens today.

I know that in some countries, gender roles are still not as advanced, sadly.

But when did this really start to be noticeable?

One thing about a more secular society is people are more likely to face shame as societal punishment vs. actual guilt.

Shame is an external force. Sometimes it is well justified for people who really do wrong. Other times the “shame” is socially constructed and evil on its own. The Maoist struggle sessions are a great example of this. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Struggle_session

Guilt is internal. It’s actually a much more powerful psychological motivator to make right or wrong decisions. Upbringing, communities and religious influences can directly impact guilt.

But some people are sociopaths/psychopaths and don’t feel any guilt. Hence they only worry about their reputation being harmed vs. whether or not they actually harmed someone.

Anyway I’m noticing this bizarre trend in modern society where we have become more “tolerant” of certain deviations but far less forgiving others. Less forgiveness too. Ironically I think this is driving some people to actually get worse on actions that harm others and themselves.